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Personal Power Tip

The greater your personal power, the greater your success. The method for increasing your personal power in this week's article was discovered by L. Ron Hubbard in 1958.

"Power is contained in the ability to maintain a position in space. If you can't maintain a position in space you will never have any power." -- L. Ron Hubbard

Try this demonstration. Put a coin on your desk. Move it around with the tip of your finger. Now, with the thumb on your left hand, firmly press down on the object. Make it hold a position. Try to move it around with a finger on your right hand. Because the coin holds its position, it has power. You can do the same thing.

Holding a position on a principle is very important for your personal power. For example, someone at your job says, "Will you tell the boss I met my quota so I can get a bonus?" You say, "No, sorry, I can't lie for you." No matter what the person tries to make you lie, you hold a position. You are using your power.

Do you remember a time when you held a position on something that was important to you? But then someone convinced you to change your mind? How did you feel?

Do you remember another time when you held a position on something important? No matter what anyone said, you stuck to your idea? How did you feel?

Three More Examples

1. Joe is happily married to June and works with June on several important goals. One day, Joe runs into his ex-girlfriend from college. She tells Joe, "You know, I sure miss you! Let's go to my apartment for some wine and have a chat, okay?" Joe has plenty of personal power and holds a position on what he knows is right. He says, "Okay, but let's pick up my wife on the way because she would love to meet you."

2. You decide to stop smoking. After the first day, your body seems to be screaming, "Get me a cigarette!" You hold a position and refuse. During the second day, your body seems to say, "I will die if I don't have a smoke." You hold a position and eat a carrot. Soon, your body's addiction gives up and you are a nonsmoker.

3. You need to write a report for your boss and need it the next morning. Most of the report is in your laptop and you decide to finish it at home. After you eat dinner, you get out your laptop, but it won't start. You try everything you know to get it working with no success. You call for tech support, but learn the computer company is closed for the night. You call your friend who says, "Sorry, I can't help you. I'm sure your boss will understand why you can't write it."

You decide to hold a position regarding the report. You decide to make it go right. You pull out a writing pad and start to write. At midnight, your spouse says, "I'm sure your boss will understand if you don't finish the report. Come to bed!" You feel really tired and decide to climb into bed.

After a few minutes, you decide to hold a position regarding the report. So despite feeling tired and having a bad laptop, you get up and continue handwriting the report. At 5 AM, you finish the first version. You think, "My boss will understand that it looks sloppy."

Yet once again, you decide to hold a position. You remember you are a professional.

So you get dressed and arrive at the office an hour early. You use a computer to type up the report. By 8 AM, the report is done and it is perfect. Your boss is thrilled. You feel powerful.

Maintaining Your Power

When you hold a position on a constructive, beneficial position, you soon get respect and support. The people around you realize you have good intentions and that you usually do the right thing. They learn to trust you and do not oppose you.

For example, a friend says, "Don't tell the store you dropped the television. Tell them it didn't work in the first place."

You say, "No, I'll tell the truth and try to work something out."

Later, your friend says, "Will you help me with my investments? I know I can trust you."

When an antisocial person holds a position on destructive or evil positions, he or she eventually fails. Most people in this world prefer good intentions. Sooner or later, they learn who has bad intentions and withdraw support or fight back.

For example, every night after a work, a coworker says, "Let's have some fun and all go get drunk!" At first, a few people go with him, but they soon discover he is an alcoholic and gets mean when he's drunk. No matter how often he holds a position and demands that people go with him, he ends up drinking alone.

Holding a position to destroy something good, hurt others or prove others are wrong is a poor use of your personal power. You lose respect, trust and support.

Management

As a manager, you often make decisions for the good of the group. If you know what you are doing, you make the right decisions. But being right does not mean your group members will do what you ask them to do.

You often need some personal power to back it up. The better you can hold your position on what you know is right, the greater your success.

For example, you say to your computer technician, "Bill, will you back up the computer files now?"

Bill says, "After I go to the bathroom and have lunch and meet with Marge. I'll try to do it."

As a good manager, you look Bill in the eye and you say, "Bill, this is very important. You need to make the backup right now." Bill realizes you are not flexible on this and does what you say. You stay in charge.

Recommendations

1. Write down situations you should hold a position in space. When do you let people push you around? When should you say, "No" or "Yes" but you back down? Perhaps you need to hold a position against a habit or temptation?

2. Select an easy item on the list that will benefit you and others if you hold a position on it. Write down how you will hold your ground.

3. Do it! Hold a position on this thing as soon as possible. Notice how you feel.

4. Continue to strengthen your personal power by holding your position in space on tougher and tougher situations, especially those positions that help you and others succeed.

If you do these steps, you will become more powerful than ever before.

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TipsForSuccess: How to Create and Maintain a Successful Marriage

Do You Really Enjoy Your Work?

"Work is only as good as it's enjoyed, not as it's paid." -- L. Ron Hubbard

When you do what you love, your odds of success are much greater. You have more passion, more fun and more energy.

When you enjoy your job, you look forward to Monday mornings. Your days fly by. You make steady progress.

Your enjoyment is also contagious. The people around you get along better. They follow your example and have more fun.

When you love your work, you recognize opportunities, make better decisions and enjoy less stress. When you add skillful work performance, you also become an expert.

What if you do not enjoy your work?

The Good Must Outweigh the Bad

Every job, every profession and every business includes distasteful aspects--the complicated, boring, dirty or difficult parts of the job. Yet conquering these difficulties is how you pay the bills.

To get rich, simply perform an important job most people can't do or won't do. For example, drilling tiny holes in people's teeth or performing surgery on people's stomachs is very tough work, but it can make dentists and physicians wealthy.

Yet if you have no love for your job, the difficult parts become unbearable. You hate going to work. You hate the people. The stress makes you sick.

When you love the purpose and results of your work, the difficulties become easier to deal with and you take pride in conquering them. The benefits of the job outweigh the liabilities.

Five Steps to Getting More Enjoyment from Your Work

1. List what you like about your work. What makes it worth doing? For example, working with good people, improving your customers' lives, doing a technically perfect job and so on.

2. List what you dislike about your work. What makes you want to quit? For example, working long hours, customer complaints, health risks, mean bosses and so on.

3. List your purposes for this job. Why did you start? What is the big picture? Why do you do this work?

4. Review and add items to the above three lists. Continue until you feel a surge of joy. When the lists are balanced, your passion takes over and you love your job.

5. If adding items to these lists does not give you a surge of joy for your job, write down a plan to make some changes.

Change your routine. Work with different people. Do a better job. Transfer to a different department. Change directions, get a new job or learn a new profession.

Change a negative attitude. Learn to accept help. Stop cutting corners.

Keep making changes until the joy of your job is greater than its difficulties.

If you own a business that gives you no joy, change it as well. Make it into an operation that makes you happy. Replace difficult employees. Delegate more responsibilities. Improve the quality of the service or product. Make the operation bigger or smaller. Sell out and start another business.

Love your work so your success can follow.

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TipsForSuccess: Who is Stopping You? (Part Four)

How to Create and Maintain a Successful Marriage

Life is wonderful when you have a good marriage. (Even though we use the terms "marriage" and "spouse," this article applies to every type of close, personal, sexual relationship).

You can endure the difficulties at work more easily if you can go home to a successful marriage. You have more fun during your free time when you do it with your spouse. Insurance experts agree that happily married people are healthier and live longer than single people.

On the other hand, life is miserable when you are trapped in a bad marriage. You and your spouse either argue or avoid communicating. You and your spouse cannot agree on anything and prefer to spend your time apart from each other.

The stress of a bad marriage makes your work more difficult. Your production and income suffer because you are miserable. You search for reasons to get a divorce.

An Important Ingredient in All Successful Marriages

"The successful sex relationship depends upon man and woman reaching a high degree of agreement on immediate and long-term goals . . . ." -- L. Ron Hubbard

Goals are a vital factor in a happy, healthy marriage. For example, a married couple shares the goal of raising their children; to help them grow up. They have a high degree (large amount) of agreement on this goal which keeps them happily married while the children are living at home. After the kids are grown and on their own, the couple does not set new goals for themselves as a couple. They argue. They spend less time together. They finally get divorced for several "reasons." They never realize the real reason for the divorce is they have no goals.

Some couples work hard to start a business and then divorce after the business is a big success. They say, "We were happier when we were poor and struggling." The fact is, they did not set and agree on any new goals after the business took off.

A personal disaster often unites a couple because they are forced to agree on a goal. For example, after five years of marriage, Jake and Sara argue every day until Sara finds out she has breast cancer. Suddenly Jake and Sara have a shared goal of getting rid of Sara's cancer. Jake and Sara have a high degree of agreement and so stop their fighting. They fall back in love and work together on this mutual goal.

Another example is with newlyweds. A new couple will often fight during their honeymoon. Their goal to have a wonderful wedding has been achieved. But once the party is over, they have nothing to work on as a team. So they pick on each other.

If you counsel a couple before their wedding, tell them, "You need to spend your honeymoon setting goals for your marriage. You need to agree on immediate goals and long-term goals. Don't come home from your honeymoon until you have several goals worked out."

If the newlyweds follow your advice, they join as a team and jump into life with a mutual direction. They are happily married as they are connected in a common cause. They accomplish a great deal in their lives rather than waste their marriage with disagreements, conflicts and fights.

Disagreements, anger, upsets or "personality conflicts" are often resolved when the two people find and agree on some goals. Each person can have other goals as well, but for the marriage to succeed, both parties must agree on some short- and long-term goals.

Recommendations

1. Have a goal-setting session with your spouse. Agree on as many short-term and long-term goals as possible. Write each goal down so you can review them on a regular basis.

The goals can be anything you and your spouse agree to set. Some examples can be: Help our son reach the top 10% of his class. Buy a big new house. Move to Canada. Go on a two-day vacation each month. Save $3 million for our retirement. Clean up the house every weekend. Get Jack through medical school and Jill through law school. Improve our tennis game. Help our friend Fred win the election for governor. Get rid of the roaches. Spend a month in China. Double the size of our computer company. Buy a horse ranch.

2. Whenever you and your spouse start to argue or avoid each other, pull out your goals list. Check your progress on each goal. Ensure you are still in agreement on the goals. You may have reached many of your old goals and must agree on several new ones.

Like magic, getting back in agreement on your goals will replace your angry, hurtful feelings with admiration, respect and love.

3. If you are searching for a mate, find someone who will agree on goals with you. Love, attraction and good communication are never enough. You must determine if you and this person can agree on some goals. Will you and this person work together to reach mutual goals?

4. Help other couples by encouraging them to agree on several short- and long-term goals.

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Who Is Stopping You? (Part Four)

The greatest barrier to your success is not the economy, your work habits or your opportunities. Your greatest source of stress is not money or the weather or any physical thing.

The biggest source of business problems, career difficulties and personal stress is the antisocial personality. The type of person who is devious, mean-spirited, cruel, hostile or negative. The one who openly or secretly opposes you, cuts you down and causes you trouble.

When you handle or disconnect from an antisocial person, you feel better. You relax. You succeed more than you fail. You have less to fight on your way to your goals.

The antisocial is also known as a suppressive person as he or she prefers to suppress your success, hold down your progress and stop your happiness.

The first four characteristics of an antisocial person are covered in previous TipsForSuccess articles which you can read at www.tipsforsuccess.org/antisocial1.htm, www.tipsforsuccess.org/antisocial2.htm and www.tipsforsuccess.org/antisocial3.htm.

Characteristic #5

"5. Surrounding such a personality we find cowed* or ill associates or friends who, when not driven actually insane, are yet behaving in a crippled manner in life, failing, not succeeding." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*cowed: intimidated, frightened)

Like most people, you have good intentions and try to improve your life. Your statistics in life go up; life gets better.

But then you talk to an antisocial. He or she makes you feel like you are failing.

"You're so weak! Act like a grownup. Get a real job. Don't be such an idiot!"

"Everyone will think you're a jerk if you buy that Mercedes."

"If you don't do what I say, your life will fall apart and you will suffer."

If you believe statements like these, you feel afraid. You may get sick. Your production statistics and income will not improve.

With willpower, you may fight your way out of the mental turbulence and start to succeed . . . for a while. But then the antisocial will find a way to bring you down.

The stress of such situations is extreme. The stress can make you ill. As long as you are associated with the antisocial, you may never recover from an illness.

When you talk to an antisocial, you may feel all kinds of emotions: rage, grief, apathy and so on.

The opposite is true with a social person.

"The friends and associates of a social personality tend to be well, happy and of good morale." -- L. Ron Hubbard

Have you ever felt wonderful after talking to someone? You are talking to a social personality. He or she wishes you success.

The social person helps you increase your productivity. When you make a large amount of money, he or she is delighted and never jealous. You can trust the social personality.

Some social persons have powerful personalities. They help you solve problems. They lift your spirits. If you are sick, they seem to make your illness disappear, just by talking to you!

Characteristic #6

"6. The antisocial personality habitually selects the wrong target." "If a tire is flat from driving over nails, he or she curses a companion or a noncausative source of the trouble. If the radio next door is too loud, he or she kicks the cat." "If A is the obvious cause, the antisocial personality inevitably blames B, or C or D." -- L. Ron Hubbard

Terrorism, war and murder are, of course, wrong targets. No purpose is served by killing people.

Charles Manson persuaded his followers to commit several murders. He testified he was trying to improve the "establishment." Later, he said a Beatle's song made him do it.

Politicians, psychiatrists and social workers often select wrong targets. "Our mayor seems to encourage crime." "He steals because of his chemical imbalance." "She needs more welfare money because she had a bad childhood."

You see examples of wrong targets every day: The driver on the road behind you who blames you for making him late for work. The patient who blames the doctor for his cancer. A man who can't pay his bills and so blames his boss.

Prejudice and biased views are good examples of wrong targets. "We keep our company fresh and hip by never hiring anyone over the age of 45." "Republicans have ruined the economy." "Homosexuals are a threat to my marriage."

Correct Targets

The social personality selects correct targets. "Our customer service is why our customers give us their repeat business." "I'm fat because I eat lots of junk food and never exercise." "If you constantly learn new skills and work harder, you'll make more money."

Intelligent social people can find correct targets to any problem. Examples: "You are broke because you don't organize your finances and control your spending." "The only reason you're not married is you do not find out what your girlfriends really want." "Give bonuses to employees who do the most production and your business will thrive."

When you have the correct target for a problem, the solution is obvious and it solves the problem.

To read L. Ron Hubbard's complete article, which covers all 12 characteristics of the antisocial personality, go to www.scientologyhandbook.org/sh11_1.htm

For the text that covers all 12 social characteristics, go to www.scientologyhandbook.org/sh11_2.htm

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TipsForSuccess: Personal Power Tip

TipsForSuccess: Do You Really Enjoy Your Work?

TipsForSuccess: How to Create and Maintain a Successful Marriage

TipsForSuccess: Who is Stopping You? (Part Four)

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