TipsForSuccess: You Have the Power to Control How People Treat You

TipsForSuccess: Brilliant Ideas Are Old Ideas

You Have the Power to Control How People Treat You You can make people like you or hate you; respect you or criticize you; support you or chop you down. You can also get people to trust you, support you and help you succeed. The way you do this is outlined by L. Ron Hubbard in The Way to Happiness. "Try to Treat Others as You Would Want Them to Treat You" "Just figure out how you would want people to treat you. "You would possibly, first of all, want to be treated justly: you wouldn't want people lying about you or falsely or harshly condemning you. Right? "You would probably want your friends and companions to be loyal: you would not want them to betray you." "You would want people to be fair in their dealings with you. "You would want them to be honest with you and not cheat you. Correct? "You might want to be treated kindly and without cruelty." "You would probably prefer to be given respect, not insulted. "Possibly you would want others to be polite to you and also treat you with dignity. Right? "You might like people to admire you. "When you did something for them you would possibly like people to appreciate you. Correct? "You would probably like others to be friendly toward you. "From some you might want love. "And above all, you wouldn't want these people just pretending these things, you would want them to be quite real in their attitudes and to be acting with integrity*." "It requires no great stretch of imagination for one to recognize that if he were to be treated that way regularly by others around him, his life would exist on a pleasant level." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*integrity: honesty, truthfulness) Three Steps to Get People to Treat You the Way You Want to Be Treated 1. Make a list of each person you wish to influence: spouse, children, parents, employees, bosses, co-workers, colleagues and so on. 2. Next to each name, write how you want them to treat you. 3. Then write how you will treat that person, in that same way. In some cases, you might be amazed at how quickly this works. In other cases, you may need to persist for a long time, so don't give up! You can learn more about The Way to Happiness, or download a free copy of the complete booklet, at www.twth.org. You can also buy a copy of the booklet from TipsForSuccess at www.tipsforsuccess.org/way-to-happiness.htm Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

Brilliant Ideas Are Old Ideas George was tired of being broke. Every day was a struggle. "How will I pay my bills? I'm going deeper into debt. I can't afford to buy anything." So George constantly worked on new ways to make money. "If I could invent a new can opener, all my money problems would be over." "Maybe I could sell funny hats on the Internet." "If I found some investors, I could open a new underwater restaurant." George had tried a few ideas, such as manufacturing a razor blade that never got dull, building the world's largest tree swing and a selling lamps made of salt. All his new ventures had failed. To survive, he had to work at McDonald's as an assistant manager. George felt he should solve his money problems with new ideas. Unfortunately, unproven ideas are often wrong. Affluence "Affluence* Attainment, consists of: ... Doing the things that won, not new things untried as yet." -- L. Ron Hubbard (Affluence: abundance; wealth) You enjoy affluence, not from new ideas, but from things that have already worked. George decides to try out this approach. He asks himself, "What has made me money in the past?" He lists the following: * Selling shoes at a store paid $350 per week. * Selling sunglasses at weekend festivals paid $1000 per weekend. * Buying old cars, fixing them up and selling them. The last car he restored, a 1961 Ford Mustang, earned $1500 profit with two weeks of work. * Working at McDonald's pays $560 per week. George realizes he can go back to his two best-paying jobs immediately: sunglasses and car restoration. He convinces the sunglass company to give him 200 pairs on credit so he can sell them at an outdoor market that weekend. He then finds a wrecked 1988 Mercedes and makes a deal to buy it for $500, on credit. George quits his McDonald's job. He makes $800 selling sunglasses that weekend. He spends three weeks on the Mercedes and sells it for $4500. George uses old, proven ideas to boost his income. How Businesses Achieve Affluence When a business sticks to proven ideas, and avoids untried methods, it usually succeeds. For example, the owner of an auto dealership notices his car sales are dropping. His marketing director says, "We need a new TV commercial. Let's use elephants! We've never tried it before. It'll be great!" The smart owner says, "Let's wait on the elephants. Instead, find which of our old commercials worked best. What made our sales jump up?" The marketing director comes back the next day and says, "I hate to tell you this, but our best TV commercial is that one of you wearing diapers and crying. You swore to never show that commercial again." The owner says, "I hate that commercial. Oh well, show it again. In fact, buy twice as many time slots! And schedule the film crew to shoot a new commercial with me in the diaper. I'm really going to cry this time!" Car sales and income jump to new levels. Doing things that won is essential to good business. Copying Ideas If you do not have anything that has made you succeed in the past, you must still avoid new ideas. Instead, do things that worked for others. For example, you want a career helping people and making a decent income. You write down the careers of everyone you know. You realize your uncle Jay, who is a dentist, helps a lot of people and makes an excellent income. You take your uncle to lunch and ask how he became a successful dentist. As another example, you want a successful marriage and family. You find who has been happily married for a long time and has a successful family. You learn all you can about what helped them succeed and then copy their ideas. If you want to succeed in any kind of job or business, interview the people who are succeeding. Find out what worked for them. Use these ideas as they are proven, not untried as yet. Luckily, most successful people enjoy talking about their success secrets and do not worry about competition. Doing things that won for you or others is reliable route to success. Four Steps to Boost Your Income 1. Make a list of income ideas you are using that are new and unproven. 2. Work out a plan to drop these idea. 3. Make a list of income ideas that have worked for you or others. 4. Next to each item on both lists, write down how you can use these ideas to boost your income. Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

Fw: TipsForSuccess: What Makes You Happy?

 

What Makes You Happy? What makes you satisfied and content? Why do you get bored? Where is the joy in life? "Happiness could be defined as the emotion of progress toward desirable goals. There is an instant of contemplation* of the last goal in which one is content. But contentment becomes boredom immediately that new goals do not come to view. There is no more unhappy thing than a man who has accomplished all his ends in life." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*contemplation = thoughtful observation; meditation) Let's examine three parts of this definition. 1. "There is an instant of contemplation of the last goal in which one is content." Think of goals you have reached in the past. How did you feel right after your wedding? When you got your first job? When you graduated from school? Take a fast second to contemplate the last goal you reached. Perhaps you now feel content? 2. "But contentment becomes boredom immediately that new goals do not come to view." For example, planning a vacation is exciting. But toward the end of a vacation many people are bored as they no longer have a goal. Arguments during honeymoons are common, if the newlyweds do not set goals for their marriage. Planning your retirement and the first day of retirement is a thrill. But the joy of freedom quickly turns to boredom and early death if you do not work on new goals. "There is no more unhappy thing than a man who has accomplished all his ends in life." Think of a time you were very bored. Had you completed a major goal without starting a new one? 3. "Happiness could be defined as the emotion of progress toward desirable goals." We can use this definition to understand unhappiness as well. When were you last unhappy? In each case, you probably 1) had no goal, 2) were trying to reach an undesirable goal, or 3) you were making no progress toward a goal. Making yourself happy is not difficult. Simply chose desirable goals and make progress toward them! Give it a Try! First, select a desirable goal. If you don't have a desirable goal, make one up. What do you really desire? Second, write down ONE SINGLE THING you can do right now toward this goal. It has to be an action step. Not thinking about it or talking about it. Actual physical motion. Next, do it! Take that one step right now. Make some small, but real progress. You might be surprised at how easy it is. Finally, notice if making this little bit of progress makes you happier. Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

TipsForSuccess: Why Start a War?

Why Start a War? Your neighbor likes to throw loud parties. Every Saturday night, the street is full of cars and people. His stereo blasts rock-and-roll songs until 1 AM. You complain to anyone who will listen. You call the police. It does no good. Every Saturday night is a big party. How do you solve it? Do you talk to your neighbor and work it out? Or do you get a rifle and kill him? Of course, if you are sane, you control the problem with logic or communication. Even if this neighbor shot his rifle at you, you probably wouldn't shoot back. Killing people is not a sane response. As any war veteran can tell you, shooting or bombing people causes a lifetime of depression. So why does anyone start a war? As a decorated Naval officer in World War II, L. Ron Hubbard experienced war firsthand. In a book called All About Radiation, he writes, "Man has a madness and that madness is called war." "A government becomes worried about its ability to control its populace* and neighbors and resorts to war as a means of compelling obedience at home as well as abroad. "In actuality, a weakness and insecurity of government causes war. If a government were very strong and felt very secure, it would employ the most peaceful, quiet methods of granting beingness** and getting cooperation from its potential enemies. It wouldn't fight a war. "One doesn't find an educated, secure man fighting with his neighbors. No, the person who fights his neighbors is a very insecure and not sane." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*Populace: All the people in an area.) (**Granting beingness: Allowing others to be who they are.) Five Non-violent Recommendations 1. Whenever you want to attack someone, find out where you are weak or insecure. Improve your personal power in these areas and your urge to attack disappears! 2. Grant beingness to your enemies. Decide that it is okay for them to be who they are, even if they are different than you. They will no longer seem like enemies! 3. If you can't control people that you should control, get smarter. Use your communication skills, personal charm and intelligence to gain their cooperation. As history always proves, control with violence is temporary; control through cooperation lasts forever. 4. Whenever you hear someone recommend violence as a solution, find out what makes him or her feel weak or insecure. Discuss solutions that use logic, communication and personal improvement. 5. As you reduce the weakness and insecurity in yourself and others, you will want to attack the bigger enemies in our world: starvation, disease, global warming, insufficient water, insufficient power, bad education, crime, drug addiction, insanity and more. Imagine a world without these problems! Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

TipsForSuccess: Who Do You Blame?

Who Do You Blame? No one wins the blame game. For example, you make a mistake and feel guilty. So you blame someone or something. "I crashed the car because you played the radio too loud!" "It's not my fault the soup is too salty! It's your stupid recipe." "If we had a newer computer, I wouldn't have deleted the computer files." Blame is frequently used to explain poor job performance. "My boss is such a jerk, I can't get my work done." "I closed my painting shop and went bankrupt because of the economy." "I don't get paid enough to be nice to EVERY customer." Blame is also used for personal problems. "I'm depressed because of the tragedies on television." "I can't be faithful to my wife because I have a chemical imbalance." "I can't stop smoking because my father used to spank me." Why You Can't Win the Blame Game When you blame someone or something else, you actually make yourself weak and ineffective. You make yourself "at effect" instead of being "at cause" of the situation. You give power to the person or thing you blame. "Blaming something else makes that something else cause; and as that cause takes on power, the individual in the same act loses control and becomes effect." -- L. Ron Hubbard For example, your business is failing and you blame your assistant. You are making your assistant more powerful than you. You might say, "My assistant messed up my business, " which is just another way of saying, "My assistant determines if my business succeeds or fails." If you take responsibility for your business, you would say, "I need to train my assistant so he doesn't make mistakes" or "I'd better fire my assistant so my business will succeed." As another example, you might blame your parents for your stress and anxiety. This makes your parents responsible for your feelings. You might say, "My parents ruined my life" which is the same as saying, "My parents are so powerful, they control my emotions. I have no control over my anxiety." Stopping the blame game and accepting responsibility for yourself gives you new hope. "My parents didn't ruin my life. I ruined my life by being lazy and unemployed. I just need to improve my opinion about myself and get busy." While blaming people for your problems is silly, blaming physical objects is even worse. "My house is so ugly, I feel depressed." "Hot weather makes me go crazy!" "My body has a disorder which makes me fat." In these cases, you are actually saying, "My life is controlled by _______." If you wish to succeed, you have to end the blame game. You only get ahead when you become "cause" over the situation. " I'll stop watching TV and paint my house a nice color." "I'll stay inside so the hot weather doesn't bother me." "I'm only fat because I eat too much and don't exercise." Five Steps for Ending the Blame Game 1. Make four columns on a sheet of paper. 2. In the first column, list all of the problems or conditions you blame on others or things. Example: "I can't stop smoking because I'm addicted to nicotine." 3. In the next column, write how you are responsible for each problem or condition. Example: "I am the one who decided to become a smoker." 4. Write how you can take more responsibility for each. Example: "I could be more determined to quit smoking." 5. In the last column, write down an action step you can take for each problem or condition. Example: "Each time I want a cigarette this week, take a 15-minute walk first." Five Benefits of Taking More Responsibility * Other people and things have less control over your destiny. * Poor conditions start to improve. * You make fewer mistakes. * No one can control you without your consent. * You become the most powerful force in your future success. Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.