TipsForSuccess: Hate

 

Hate Have you ever hated someone without knowing why? Perhaps before you hated the person, you tried to help him or her. For example, Jill says, "Can you give me a $3000 loan?" You say, "No, I won't give you a loan, but I can show you how to get a raise." Jill says, "Forget it! If I wanted your advice, I'd ask for it." You suddenly feel mad at Jill. "If you think of somebody you hate, you can probably remember a time when you tried to help him or a man like him. Your hatred, actually, is based on the fact that you flopped." -- L. Ron Hubbard You tried to help someone and you flopped. Perhaps you gave some bad advice. Maybe the person didn't want the kind of help you offered. Does someone hate you? Did that person ever try to help you? Was it useless help? Did you reject his or her help? It's a rotten feeling to try to help someone and fail. How to Resolve This Hatred "Pick a person that you've tried to help and get a discussion going on the subject of help. I'll guarantee that if you had a bad time trying to help that person, you're going to enter into one of the wilder discussions that you have been in for some time." -- L. Ron Hubbard So instead of ignoring the person or talking about problems, talk about the subject of "help." Discuss giving help, receiving help, problems with help and so on. Ten Sample Questions to Open the Discussion 1. Do you like getting help? 2. Do you like helping others? 3. How do you feel about me helping you? 4. How do you feel about helping me? 5. Have you ever tried to help me, but couldn't? 6. Is there a time I tried to help you, but I couldn't? 7. Do you wish you could help more people? 8. Do you wish more people could help you? 9. In the future, how can I help you? 10. In the future, do you want to help me? In what ways? "Help is the most acceptable subject you ever discussed with anybody." -- L. Ron Hubbard Give it a try! Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

TipsForSuccess: Two Simple Steps Anyone Can Take to Earn More Money

Two Simple Steps Anyone Can Take to Earn More Money "Money flows toward points which attract prosurvival attention. You make as much money as you get attention." -- L. Ron Hubbard (prosurvival: something that aids or assists you or others) Step One First of all, your work, your service or product, needs to be prosurvival or beneficial to as many people as possible. What is the most beneficial thing you can do or create or produce? You can attract attention by committing a horrible crime, but instead of getting rich, you go to prison. You attracted contra-survival attention. By contra-survival, we mean you are hurting people, not helping them. You attract prosurvival attention when you help people live a better life. If you show how you can help people with their survival, happiness and success, you make money. For example, not long ago, computers began helping people and businesses in many incredible ways. As a result, thousands of people in the computer industry became millionaires. Advertising proves this point about attracting prosurvival attention. For example, "Buy this gizmo because we're a big, successful company" doesn't work. "Buy this gizmo! It will clean your bathtub for you" does work because it's helping people survive a little better in life. On an individual level, you need to show how you are prosurvival. How you help people. How you help your company, your co-workers, your clients or customers. How you help the world! Step Two Now you attract attention every way you can. Businesses that attract attention succeed. For example, McDonald's and Wal-Mart dominate their industries, but they continue to spend millions in advertising. You, as an individual, can also attract attention. You simply tell people about your prosurvival product or service. You brag it up! For example, a friendly, helpful car salesman always wore a green hat. Like many salesmen, he truly helped people. All his customers remembered and recommended him, not by his name, but as the "guy in the green hat." The hat got him attention and he wore it every day for decades. According to car sales legend, he sold more vehicles than anyone in history. Unfortunately, when you start to attract attention, you might get kicked in the teeth. Certain people will go out of their way to make you shut up. They hate the idea of you succeeding. So what? If you respond to criticism by getting quiet, the bad guys win. If you respond by attracting even more attention than before, you win! Ten Tips For Attracting Prosurvival Attention While the best ideas for attracting prosurvival attention will come from your own imagination and successes, the following ideas can help you get started. 1. Spread the news about your good work to everyone at your job, especially your boss. 2. Strike up conversations with strangers whenever possible. 3. Show something unique about yourself, like the man in the green hat. Stand out from the crowd. 4. Go to social events and meet as many new people as you can. 5. Share stories about your happy customers with other customers. 6. Get your family and friends to talk about the many ways you help people. 7. Learn how to speak in public and give speeches at every opportunity. 8. Post your prosurvival ideas on the web (blogs, bulletin boards, forums, your own website). 9. Look and act like a professional at all times. 10. Do things that are so beneficial that others are compelled to spread the news. You'll soon see more money flowing your way. Start! Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

TipsForSuccess: The Root of a Successful Marriage

 

TipsForSuccess: Joy for Your Job

The Root of a Successful Marriage "You want to know why somebody is failing consistently in his marriage. It's because he's unwilling to take responsibility for others than himself." -- L. Ron Hubbard People who do not take responsibility for others have failed marriages as well as failed jobs, failed businesses and failed friendships. Because they are unwilling to take responsibility for their mates or spouses, they say things like: "I was so stupid to marry you!" "He's your kid, not mine." "That's the dumbest career choice you've ever made." "You're really getting fat." "I'm reporting you to the authorities." "If you had checked the car's oil like I said, it wouldn't need all these repairs." "You can't communicate." "My husband didn't show up for work? Not my problem." "My wife maxed out the credit cards, so she can pay them, I won't." A marriage is miserable when the husband and wife are unwilling to be responsible for each other. They argue, fight, blame, criticize, scream and cry. The marriage ends in divorce. The Responsible Marriage "The willingness to take responsibility for somebody other than yourself is at the root of every successful marriage." -- L. Ron Hubbard When you take responsibility for someone else, you accept their actions as your own. You care for the person, guard the person, help the person and are interested in the person. You accept the person as he or she is. When you are willing to take responsibility for your mate, you say things like: "We made a good decision to get married. I think we'll make it better and better." "He's your kid and I love him." "If that's the career choice you want to make, I'll support you on it." "Should we work on losing weight together? How about if we both start exercising and eating better." "We'd better fix this problem before someone reports you to the authorities." "Oops! We forgot to watch the car's oil. I'll get it fixed tomorrow." "We need to fix our communication. Is it okay with you if we turn off the TV and listen to each other." "My husband didn't show up for work? I'll find him and one of us will call you right back." "We maxed out the credit cards and we'll pay them off." A marriage is joyful when the husband and wife take responsibility for each other. They create a happy home for themselves and their children. They stay in love. Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

Joy for Your Job "Work is only as good as it's enjoyed, not as it's paid." -- L. Ron Hubbard (from The Problems of Work) When you do what you love, your odds of success are much greater. You have more passion, more energy and more fun. When you enjoy your job, you look forward to Monday mornings. Your days fly by. You make steady progress. Work enjoyment is contagious. The people around you get along better. They follow your example and get more done. So what if you do not enjoy your work? The Parts You Hate Every job, every profession and every business includes distasteful aspects--the complicated, boring, dirty or difficult parts of the job. Yet conquering these difficulties, and enjoying your job anyway, is how you succeed. To get rich, simply find and perform an important job most people can't do or won't do. For example, drilling tiny holes in people's teeth or performing surgery on people's stomachs is very tough work, but it makes dentists and physicians wealthy. If you have no love for your job, the difficult parts become unbearable. You hate going to work. You hate the people. You want to quit. When you love the purpose and results of your work, the difficulties are easier to deal with. You take pride in conquering them. The benefits of the job outweigh the liabilities. Five Steps to Getting More Enjoyment from Your Work 1. List what you like about your work. What makes it worth doing? For example, working with good people, improving your customers' lives, doing a technically perfect job and so on. 2. List what you dislike about your work. What makes you want to quit? For example, working long hours, customer complaints, health risks, mean bosses and so on. 3. List your purposes for this job. Why did you start? What is the big picture? Why do you do this work? 4. Review and add items to the above three lists. Continue until you feel more joy for your work. When the lists are balanced, your passion takes over and you love your job. 5. If the four steps above do not help you find joy for your job, you need to make some changes. Change your routine. Work with different people. Do a better job. Transfer to a different department. Change directions, get a new job or learn a new profession. Change a negative attitude. Learn to accept help. Stop cutting corners. Keep making changes until the joy of your job is greater than its difficulties. If you own a business that gives you no joy, change it as well. Make it into an operation that makes you happy. Replace difficult employees. Delegate more responsibilities. Improve the quality of the service or product. Make the operation bigger or smaller. Sell out and start another business. Go! When you love your work, you recognize opportunities and make better decisions. You know where you are going. You are on the road to your major, significant success. Take your foot off the brakes and floor it! Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

TipsForSuccess: Your Unlimited Power

Your Unlimited Potential A "potentiality" is defined as the capacity for growth or improvement; a possibility; a power. For example, if you were sitting on a box of dynamite, you would be sitting on a potentiality. The dynamite isn't exploding . . . but it could. The fact is: You ARE sitting on a box of dynamite; and it's big! "Your potentialities are a great deal better than anyone ever permitted you to believe." -- L. Ron Hubbard Right now, you are capable of making improvements in your career, your finances and your life that are more significant and satisfying than anything you have ever done. You can potentially shatter your past achievement records, eliminate your worst problems and feel absolutely great. Everything you have done in the past becomes minor compared to what you can do in the future. Most people have the wrong idea about success. They believe "you can only do so much," or "you just need to keep on trying" or "success takes time." Such thinking slows you down and limits your lifetime achievements. Instead, simply take a new view of yourself, your habits and your thinking. And then ACT! To make a significant, instant improvement in your career and life, you must jump out of your rut. Overcome your addiction to safe, conservative plans. Break out of old patterns and find new attitudes. Don't settle for small improvements. Do something bold and exciting. Find a destination you passionately want and make it happen! Your Destination When you plan a vacation, you don't start by examining the route. You start by choosing a destination. The route becomes obvious when you focus on the goal. And the bigger the destination, the more exciting the trip. What is the most exciting destination you can imagine for yourself? What objective makes your heart pound? What goal lifts your mood? These are your potentialities. These are your dreams. These are what you can believe in! To get there, start by concentrating on the end result. Put yourself in the picture your dreams. Create a vision of you reaching your goals. Then act. Take a small step, a large step or a leap. Any progress will lead to more progress, as long as you remember to think of your ultimate success. The time to start is now. Focus on a goal and light the fuse!   Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.