TipsForSuccess: Can You Be Wrong?

 

Are You Strong Enough to Be Wrong? Most people find it hard to say, "I am wrong." Can you say it? When faced with facts that show you are mistaken, can you admit you are wrong and change your position? If you cannot admit you are wrong, you ruin your life. Examples: "He won't admit I'm right so I'm never speaking to him again." "There is nothing you can say or do to convince me there is anything wrong with eating Big Macs and fries every day." "I stopped being a lawyer as a protest because a judge was completely wrong." When leaders refuse to admit when they are wrong, we get waste, destruction and death. For example, for hundreds of years, churches, houses and barns were burned to the ground after being hit by lightning. Everyone agreed it was God's will and only sinners' homes were set on fire. When a good person's house was burned down, it was the Devil's work. In 1752, Benjamin Franklin invented the lightning rod. The surge of electricity from lightning would hit the metal rod on the roof of the building and go down a wire into the ground. The electricity would not burn the building. Yet despite proof, religious leaders would not admit they were wrong and instead, accused Franklin of interfering with God's work. It took 20 years (30 in Germany) and thousands of destroyed churches before a new generation of church leaders would install lightning rods on their churches. Everyone wants to be right. For many people, nothing is worse than being wrong. They maintain their "rightness" despite all reasons they are mistaken. "Until my dying day, I will never admit I am wrong about this!" However, admitting you are wrong, when you are wrong, is an essential step to your success. "Truth is built by those who have the breadth and balance to see also where they're wrong." -- L. Ron Hubbard (Breadth = tolerance; broad mindedness) (Balance = mental stability; sanity) Can you be wrong? Can you handle the truth? Five Tips for Your Success 1. To succeed, face the fact that you are sometimes wrong. Get rid of any ideas that you must always be right about everything. 2. Show you are more interested in being correct than "right." Be proud when you discover you are wrong. You are learning from experience and expanding your knowledge. 3. When you make a mistake or are wrong about something, be the first to admit it. Do it quickly and take a new, more accurate position. You are no longer wrong after you change your mind about an incorrect idea. 4. If people try to correct you, do not assume they are trying to make you wrong. Instead, assume they are trying to help you. If their intentions seem genuine, accept their help. 5. Replace your purpose of being right with more constructive purposes: helping people, increasing your knowledge, improving your job skills, earning more money, creating a valuable company and so on. You succeed when you are willing to be wrong. You can then find the truth and be correct. Give it a try. Be wrong about something today! Provided by TipsForSuccess.org as a public service to introduce the technology of L. Ron Hubbard to you.     Copyright © 2011 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard.    Subscribe, buy books or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org at www.tipsforsuccess.org

 

TipsForSuccess: The First Step to Gaining Respect

The First Step to Gaining Respect A bad personal impression gives a message that is not always accurate. For example, bad breath gives the impression that you are dirty. Poor eye contact gives an impression that you are not interested. Crooked teeth give the impression that you are stupid. "Cleanliness and neatness are the primary building blocks to respect in most societies." -- L. Ron Hubbard To Succeed, You Need Respect Personal impressions are important in this society. A bad impression can hurt your chances of success. People may dislike being around you. You make them uncomfortable. They distrust you somehow. A good personal impression makes your job easier. It opens the door to good relationships. It gives you a chance to show your skills and value. Job applicants with a good personal image have a significant advantage over those with a poor image. Sales people often win or lose because of their image. Getting a date or finding a spouse depends a great deal on your image. To succeed in business, financial or public relations activities, you must establish as much respect as possible. You have no excuse for not being clean and neat. A good personal image helps make people listen to you, believe in you and like being with you. It shows you are a professional. Everyone can improve their personal image. It's an easy, but important step on your road to success. 25 Ways to Improve Your Image 1. Do not smell. Use an effective unscented deodorant. Avoid perfume and cologne. 2. Ensure your clothing fits well, is clean and not stained. Dress professionally; slightly better than those around you. Wear nothing extraordinary: psychedelic ties, hats, flashy jewelry and so on. 3. As a female, avoid heavy cosmetics or inappropriate clothing. As a male, keep your hair short and trimmed; same with facial hair. 4. Ensure your fingernails are clean, smooth and well shaped. 5. Pluck hair that sticks out of your ears or nose, between eyebrows, out of moles or other odd places. 6. Look healthy: no red eyes, sniffles or coughing. 7. Brush your teeth frequently. Ensure you have clean-smelling breath. 8. Keep your hair clean and natural-looking. 9. Unless your boss or clients display their own body art, keep your tattoos and piercings covered up. 10. Stand when first meeting someone, no matter who they are. 11. Walk with good posture; stand tall, lift your chin. 12. Sit straight. 13. Make good eye contact while listening and talking. 14. Automatically smile at everyone you see. 15. Shake hands or pat the shoulder of each person you meet or greet. 16. Use a dry, warm hand for handshaking. 17. Allow a comfortable amount of space between you and others. 18. Laugh easily; it makes people relax and makes your face glow. 19. Watch your humor. Avoid jokes about race, disability, sex and so on. Tell jokes about yourself or share funny stories that anyone would enjoy. 20. Appear relaxed, yet energized. 21. Use good manners. Say "please," "thank you," and "excuse me" at all times to everyone regardless of whom you think they are. 22. Use good language. Bad/good examples: "c'mere/come here," "ain't/isn't," "yeah/yes," "nah/no." 23. Acknowledge everyone, ignore no one. 24. Say "goodbye" to everyone as you or they leave. 25. Be proud. "Pride is the primary reason for good appearance." -- L. Ron Hubbard Provided by TipsForSuccess.org as a public service to introduce the technology of L. Ron Hubbard to you.    Copyright © 2011 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard.   Subscribe, buy books or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org at www.tipsforsuccess.org.

 

 

TipsForSuccess: How to Break Bad Habits

How to Break Bad Habits   To succeed, you must have the power to break your bad habits.   For example, bad spending habits block your financial success. Laziness ruins your income. Acting like a victim makes people avoid you.   Bad health is caused by smoking, drinking, drugs, bad diet or a lack of exercise. When you break these bad habits, you feel better and live longer.   Bad marriages are also caused by bad habits, like dishonesty, disrespect or cheating. When you break these habits, you and your spouse enjoy a happier marriage.   From smoking to lying, being disorganized to gambling, you can stop any behavior that is bad for you and your success.   Taking Control   You have the power to control yourself. You move your arms and legs. You decide what you say. You determine where your body goes.   In other words, habits are not forced on you by others. Breaking habits means you take control.   "A habit is simply something one cannot stop." "When one loses the ability to stop something, that thing to some degree has become his master." -- L. Ron Hubbard from The Problems of Work   For example, you decide to stop being late for work. For several days, you get out of bed on time, quickly get ready for work and arrive on time. You feel in control.   But then one morning, you have a powerful urge to stay in bed. You cannot stop the feeling and end up being late for work. You do this almost every morning for a week.   You then decide to take better control and use more intention than before. You successfully stop being late. A few months later, you notice you have no urge to stay in bed and enjoy the benefits of arriving early for work, every day.   Control a Habit to Break a Habit "Control consists entirely of starting, changing and stopping. There are no other factors in positive control. If one can start something, change its position in space or existence in time and stop it, all at will, he can be said to control it, whatever it may be." -- L. Ron Hubbard   So how can you increase your self-control? Improve your ability to start, change or stop yourself.   What can you start about the bad habit? For example, you decide to start eating sugar at noon one day, 2:00 PM the next day and 9:00 AM the third day. You decide when to start eating sugar for the day.   Next, change some things about the bad habit. You eat more honey and fruit. You eat candy for breakfast or donuts before dinner. You successfully change the habit.   Finally, you find ways to stop the habit. For example, stop eating donuts forever. Stop eating cookies at night for one night. Eat only half of a candy bar and then throw it away. You successfully stop the habit in various ways.   As you continue to start, change and stop the habit, it gets easier and easier. You notice you have more control of the habit until you realize you have mastered the habit. You then break the habit forever.   Start!   P.S. We have assembled an interactive website you can use to break your habits using start, change and stop. It is free and does not require registration. Go to www.tipsforsuccesscoaching.org to take more about control. Provided by TipsForSuccess.org as a public service to introduce the technology of L. Ron Hubbard to you.    Copyright © 2011 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard.   Subscribe, buy books or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org at www.tipsforsuccess.org.

 

TipsForSuccess: Fear of Consequences

 

Fear of Consequences Right now, you can make a decision that will make you more successful. Right now, you can take a step that will move you closer to your goals. Right now, you can change something about your life that will make you healthier and happier. However, if you find it hard to make decisions or take action, you miss these opportunities. Indecision costs companies millions when they fail to decide or fail to act. An opportunity comes and goes while management sits on its hands. For example, IBM could have controlled the personal computer market if it had acted on Bill Gates' offer to handle their software for them. Barnes and Noble was the world's biggest bookseller until Amazon.com took over. By the time Barnes and Noble started selling books on the Internet, Amazon.com had taken the number one spot. When you as an individual fail to make a decision or fail to act, you can also ruin your success or happiness. For example, you could have started a business when you were in your twenties. You could have formed a partnership with a very successful person. You could have made better decisions regarding your ex-spouse. You have probably seen big opportunities, knew they were big opportunities, and failed to act on them. In fact, you probably have one or more opportunities in front of you now. So what makes you hesitate? The Answer Is Simple "Inaction and indecision in the present is because of fear of consequences of the future." -- L. Ron Hubbard Because you are afraid of certain consequences, you do not act or do not decide. You are afraid of what might happen. You can see this principle at work with the following exercise. Five Tips for Conquering Your Fear of Consequences 1. Write down an opportunity that is available to you right now. 2. Write down the decision that is difficult to make or the action that is difficult to take. 3. Write down the consequences you might be afraid of. 4. Of these consequences, identify your biggest fear or fears. 5. Take action to resolve this fear or fears. You can then make the correct decision or take the actions necessary for your success. Example Richard has always wanted to be a business owner. His brother Alan calls one day and says, "How would you like to be partners with me on a Crazy Chicken franchise? It's the best fast-food chicken in the world! It'll be worth millions some day. Just give me that $20,000 you have in savings, quit your job and we'll start!" Richard likes the idea, but feels frozen. "I'll think about it." He then spends 80 stressful hours during the next two weeks trying to decide. Everyone has an opinion for him and he listens to them all. His wife says, "Do what you think is right." His mother says, "Don't be stupid." His father says, "Go for it!" He still can't decide. Finally, a friend at work gives him this article and Richard does the five steps as follows: 1. "I have the opportunity to be a partner with my brother Alan in a Crazy Chicken restaurant." 2. "I can't decide if buying the Crazy Chicken franchise will be successful or not." 3. "The future consequences I might be afraid of are that I'll lose my savings. I'll look like a fool. I'll regret quitting my job. I'll be cleaning a kitchen for the rest of my life." 4. "What's the biggest fear? Well, I can always save more money, so I'm not too afraid of losing my savings. I don't care if I look foolish. I doubt I'll really regret quitting my job. But I can't stand cleaning kitchens! I'm terrified that I'll spend the rest of my life cleaning kitchens. I'd rather beg on the street than clean a kitchen." 5. Richard calls his brother. "Alan, if I do this deal, will you be in charge of kitchen cleaning forever?" Alan says, "Sure!" Richard says, "I want it in writing. I'll serve the food, take the money, sweep the parking lot or anything else. But if I have to clean the kitchen, even one time, you have to agree to buy me out immediately, okay?" Alan says, "No problem. You will never, ever clean a kitchen at Crazy Chicken." Richard laughs, makes the deal and quits his job. Courage = Decision and Action What opportunities lie in front of you? Why aren't you acting on them? After all, they are your options for your success. If you remember this fact, you have the first key to taking advantage of opportunities: "Inaction and indecision in the present is because of fear of consequences of the future." -- L. Ron Hubbard What about the future makes you nervous? What future consequences scare you? Identify and resolve these fears and you become decisive, active and successful. Provided by TipsForSuccess.org as a public service to introduce the technology of L. Ron Hubbard to you.    Copyright © 2011 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard.   Subscribe, buy books or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org at www.tipsforsuccess.org.

 

TipsForSuccess: How to Be a True Friend to the World

 

How to Be a True Friend to the World   Who has the power to be your greatest enemy? Bad bosses or bad employees? Rotten neighbors? Terrorists? Unfriendly drivers on the freeway? Actually, none of them. Your greatest potential enemy is you.   No one can ruin your life like you can. No one can pull the plug on your career as effectively as you. No one can wreck your marriage like you.   When you criticize yourself or hate yourself, you become your own worst enemy.    In a book called "Self Analysis," L. Ron Hubbard writes, "Probably the most neglected friend you have is you. And yet every man, before he can be a true friend to the world, must first become a friend to himself."    When you have a high opinion of yourself, you are less afraid. You have confidence. You can make progress.   As a good friend to yourself, you stop doubting yourself. You like yourself. You expect you will succeed.   When times get tough, you can rely on yourself. When the whole world seems to oppose you, you will have at least one supporter. Even when your body stops working, you will still have a loyal friend with you.   To become a true friend to yourself, first set a goal to become your own best friend.   With this goal in mind, you can then change a few attitudes. For example, if you beat yourself up for something you did wrong in the past, knock it off. You did what you thought was right at the time. Forgive yourself, decide to never do it again and move on.   If you criticize yourself, maybe someone made you believe these criticisms. Stop agreeing with this person.   At least be fair to yourself. For every critical thought you have about yourself, balance the scales with a positive thought. Why not compliment yourself from time to time?   Be kind to yourself. Buy yourself a gift. Pat yourself on the back.   If you don't like yourself, you may not have many friends. How can you expect people to like you if you don't like you?   Yet as soon you are a true friend to yourself, you will find it easy to have many friendships and become a true friend to the world.   Click here to learn more about L. Ron Hubbard's book, "Self Analysis."   Provided by TipsForSuccess.org as a public service to introduce the technology of L. Ron Hubbard to you.    Copyright © 2011 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard.   Subscribe, buy books or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org at www.tipsforsuccess.org.