TipsForSuccess: June 2007

TipsForSuccess: No Fear

Ten Tips for Success

As you know, the TipsForSuccess articles are based on quotes by L. Ron Hubbard. The following ten quotes from L. Ron Hubbard can be used in many ways to help you increase your income, reduce your stress and make progress toward your goals.

After you read each quote, ask yourself, "How can I use this idea to be more successful?

1. "A man* is as dead as he can't communicate. He is as alive as he can communicate." (*man: a member of mankind; men, women and children)

2. "Man's greatest weapon is his reason*." (*reason: logical, rational thought; intelligence)

3. "When we were little kids, you know, the old man would say, 'Well, I just can't afford that. You're just costing me a fortune,' and so forth." "Of course, the obvious answer that I thought of years too late was 'What's the matter with you that you don't get out and make more money?' The obvious thing to tell a parent: 'What's the matter with you that you're only making that much money?' It's completely an overwhelming statement, isn't it? More money's needed in the family, why isn't he making more? Simple, direct - that's that!"

4. "A sane man has difficulty in insane surroundings."

5. "What is important is how much service you can give the world and how much you can get done and how much better you can make things."

6. "The surest way to get nowhere in life is to be serious about it!"

7. "The goal is to win. When one has lost too much and too many times, the possibility of winning seems too remote to try."

8. "Successes are little bits of living. Failures are little bits of death."

9. "There is no person alive who cannot make a new beginning."

10. "Be your own advisor, keep your own counsel and select your own decisions."

To learn more about L. Ron Hubbard, check out www.lronhubbardprofile.org, www.ronthephilosopher.org and http://adventurer.lronhubbard.org.

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TipsForSuccess: The Secret of Greatness

No Fear

If you were afraid of nothing, what goals would you set?

Fear stops success. For example, a man who wants to get married, but is afraid of women, will probably not get married. His fear stops him from reaching his goal.

If you want to run a business, you will fail if you are afraid of making big decisions. If you want to be a doctor, you cannot be afraid of sick people. If you want to succeed as an athlete, you cannot be afraid of hard, painful practice.

Fear of anything can ruin your success: fear of rejection, fear of being excluded, fear of paperwork, fear of speaking to groups, fear of anger, fear of stating the truth, fear of asking for money, fear of responsibility, fear of being attacked, fear of looking stupid, fear of pain, fear of displeasing someone and more.

With no fear in your life, what could you accomplish?

The Only Way to Remove a Fear Is to Face the Fear

"Definition: Fear is a state of imperception*; fear is an unwillingness to confront." -- L. Ron Hubbard (imperception = not perceiving; no awareness)

When something scares you, you cannot perceive it very well. Your awareness is reduced. You do not look at it.

To dissolve a fear, you must face it, confront it, experience it, perceive it, look it in the eye. Until you do this, the fear persists.

If you let a fear control you, you will avoid it, ignore it, alter it or run away from it.

For example, Bob is terrified that his son is homosexual. Bob's friend comes up to him and says, "So Bob, I hear your son is gay. Is that true?"

Bob has five options:

Avoid it: "My son? Oh, he's moving to New York."

Ignore it: "So how are your kids doing?"

Alter it: "No, he just dresses well."

Run away from it: "Oops! Look at the time! I've got to go. Bye."

Face it: "Yes, my son is gay."

Only the last option dissolves Bob's fear. It makes Bob happier than the other options. He can also be more successful as a father.

What scares you? Which of these five options do you use to deal with it?

Afraid to Offend

Nancy is afraid of offending people. Because of her fear, she cannot reach her goal to be a manager. Instead, she is stuck in a low-paying, boring, computer typing job.

Sometimes, Nancy ignores conflicts. For example, a worker in the next cubicle plays loud music. Nancy gets some earplugs.

Sometimes Nancy alters the problem. For example, Nancy returns to her desk to see a co-worker looking in her drawers. The co-worker says, "I'm looking for a pen." Nancy later notices $20 is missing. She alters what she knows has happened and says, "I must have left the cash at home."

So Nancy decides to change her life and face her fears. She walks over to the next cubicle, looks directly at the worker and says, "Please turn down the music." The worker is stunned and turns off the radio. Nancy then goes to the other co-worker and says, "I'm missing $20 that was in my desk before you went through it. Do you have it?" The co-worker says, "Oh, yes, I meant to ask, can I could borrow it?" Nancy says, "Sorry, I need it today" and gets her $20 back.

Nancy feels great! She decides to go face her boss and ask for the management training she has always wanted.

You can do the same with any of your own fears. You might think facing a fear will make the situation worse. You might think that facing the fear might even kill you.

But is living as a coward really a life?

Recommendation

Write down one of your fears. Go try to confront it. Continue until you face it completely.

Each time you face a fear, it gets easier. If you continue to confront the source fear, the feeling eventually disappears.

When you look fear in the face, you gain strength, courage and confidence.

Confronting your fears not only helps you succeed, it makes you happier.

"To be happy, one only must be able to confront, which is to say, experience those things that are." -- L. Ron Hubbard

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TipsForSuccess: #1 Learning Problem

The Secret of Greatness

Religious leaders may disagree about some things, but they all have one thing in common. They all recommend you do one important thing in your life.

You might find this recommendation difficult to follow. For a few, it's nearly impossible to live this way. However, when you use this advice, you earn the most wonderful gifts in the world.

Not only does this advice make you happy, it lowers your stress and boosts your intelligence. You face difficult situations with less fear. You are much more successful.

What Is Greatness?

"The hardest task one can have is to continue to love his fellows despite all reasons he should not."

"For the one who can achieve this, there is abundant hope.

"For those who cannot, there is only sorrow, hatred and despair. And these are not the things of which greatness, or sanity or happiness are made.

"A primary trap is to succumb to invitations to hate.

"Never use what is done to one as a basis for hatred. Never desire revenge.

"It requires real strength to love man*. And to love him despite all invitations to do otherwise, all provocations and all reasons why one should not.

"Happiness and strength endure only in the absence of hate. To hate alone is the road to disaster. To love is the road to strength. To love in spite of all is the secret of greatness. And may very well be the greatest secret in this universe." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*Man: mankind; the human race.)

Examples

1. As soon as you arrive at your family's party, your stomach twists when you see your Aunt Jane. Ever since you were young, Aunt Jane has criticized you. "Well, managing a shoe store is fine, but I thought you'd be a successful doctor, like your father." "I was completely surprised to see your daughter's eyes are blue since you and your wife have brown eyes."

If you had known Aunt Jane would be at the family gathering, you would have found a good excuse to miss it. You want to leave, but then she sees you. "There you are! Have you been avoiding me?"

You decide to be a great person and love your Aunt Jane despite all reasons you should not. As you hug her, you notice she is now in her 70's. You suddenly realize she hasn't criticized you for more than 20 years. You are surprised to find you actually do love her.

2. You are driving down the road enjoying some music and some idiot cuts in front of you. You slam on the brakes to avoid an accident. You send him a mental curse and hope he has a rotten life.

You notice you feel rotten. You blame the other driver for this feeling and start driving recklessly.

But then you think, "Hey! I don't want to hate anyone. I'm going to love that guy." You feel a little understanding for the other driver. You think, "He must be late for work" and you wish him well.

Within seconds, you feel better and forget about it. You go back to enjoying your music.

3. A few years ago, you and your friend Peter bought a delivery van. He used it during the day to make deliveries from his flower shop and you used it at night to deliver newspapers.

When going to work one night, you notice the van is missing. You call Peter who says, "Oh, sorry, I forgot to tell you that I sort of rented it to this guy. I mean, uh, well, I sold it because I had to pay off some bills. I think you owe me some money anyway, so I think we should call it even."

You say, "I can't believe this! You sold our van? You really did it this time Peter!" You slam down the telephone and vow to never speak to him again. You jump in your car and spend all night moving newspapers.

You plot revenge in several ways. You'll spray paint his windows. You'll steal his car. You'll spread rumors about him.

Every time you think about Peter and the van, you get upset. Even two years later, you still feel the hatred whenever you see a similar van.

But then you learn this principle and decide to be a great person. You decide to love Peter despite all reasons you should not. After a few days, you decide to call him.

Peter says, "I'm so glad you called! I'm sorry about the van! I've regretted selling it for years now."

You say, "Don't worry about it. I'm sorry our arrangement failed. Good luck Peter."

The van memory stops hurting you. People like being around you again. You feel great!

Five Recommendations for Becoming a Greater Person

1. Love everyone around you. People in your family, neighborhood, workplace, everyone. Love them for no reason. Why not?

2. Whenever someone tries to get you to hate him or her, refuse to play the game. Instead, generate some love for the person, even if only a small amount.

3. Make yourself tougher by loving people, even your enemies. You can certainly love people without letting them control you. In fact, it's easier to face and handle difficult people, if you love them.

4. Eliminate revenge as a purpose in your life. Who do you want to get even with? Change that intention into something positive. Wish them well and you'll feel much happier.

5. Make yourself happier by loving people. Whenever you feel depressed (sorrow) or a loss of hope (despair), find someone to love. You don't even need to see or talk to the person, just love him or her.

"To love in spite of all is the secret of greatness. -- L. Ron Hubbard

Excerpted from "What is Greatness?" by L. Ron Hubbard. You can read the full article at www.realhubbard.org.

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#1 Learning Problem: Knowing it All

Do you know someone who knows everything there is to know about something? Do you know someone who believes he or she is the world's greatest expert in a subject? Do you know people who think they know it all?

If so, you know the first reason why someone cannot learn.

"You cannot study a subject if you think you know all about it to begin with.

"A student who thinks he knows all there is to know about a subject will not be able to learn anything in it.

"A person might already be familiar with a subject from previous experience and, having had success in that field, now has the idea that he knows all about it."

"With that obstacle in the way, one can become completely bogged* down in his studies and not make forward progress.

"This is true for a student of any subject." -- L. Ron Hubbard (bogged: hindered or slowed)

Symptoms of "Knowing it All"

When you think you know all about a subject, you cannot learn anything else about it. Instead of learning, you say things like:

"I don't need to take this class. I know all about this. I'm getting out of here."

"I could give a better lecture than that guy! What a waste of my time. I'm taking a nap."

"Whoever wrote this article should have asked me for my opinion; I know more than her!"

However, if you come to realize that no one knows everything about a topic, you can then learn something new. If you admit to yourself that you do not know it all, you can improve your knowledge and skill in that subject. You open a door to new knowledge.

How to Handle "Knowing it All"

Try this exercise in a subject about which you feel you know everything there is to know.

1. Find an article you have not read on that subject.

2. Before reading the article, say to yourself, "I already know everything about this subject."

3. Read a few sentences of the article. Are you learning anything?

4. Next, change your attitude so you can agree with one of these statements:

   A. "I'd better read this to make sure I already know everything."
   B. "Maybe I can actually learn something new in this article."
   C. "If there's anything new in this field, I'd better hurry and learn it."
   D. "To make sure I know more than everyone else, I'll read this article."
   E. "My mind actually has room for more knowledge!"

5. Try reading the article now. Are you learning anything?

Ask anyone who is wildly successful and they will confirm they do not know it all. But they do know a thirst for knowledge is essential to success.

Be thirsty this week!

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Like it or Not, People Are Following Your Example

Most people do not realize how much influence they have on others. You might be the newest guy at the lowest-paying job in the worst company, but you still influence people.

For example, if you taste a cookie, hate it and pull a face, people might notice this. They will then hesitate to taste that type of cookie, even if they already believe they like it.

As another example, your friends are laughing at an overweight woman, but you don't laugh. In fact, you frown. You don't even say anything. They stop laughing at the woman and may stop making fun of overweight women, because of your example.

Of course, children follow the examples set by their parents, employees follow the examples set by their bosses, and group members follow the examples set by their leaders. Yet examples set by children, employees and group members also have a profound effect.

"There are many people one influences. The influence can be good or it can be bad.

"Others around one cannot help but be influenced by this, no matter what they say.

"The way to happiness requires that one set a good example for others." -- L. Ron Hubbard

What kind of influence do you wish to cause?

Perhaps being clean, kind, patient, hard-working and honest? Respectful, understanding, interested, cheerful and polite? Healthy, persistent, smart, organized and fair? The choice is yours.

Take a minute to write down the type of example you wish to set.

Also write how your good example will affect others.

Try it out! See how setting a good example leads to new happiness and success in your life.

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