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TipsForSuccess: Why Start a War?


Why Start a War?

Your neighbor likes to throw loud parties. Every Saturday night, the street is full of cars and people. His stereo blasts rock-and-roll songs until 1 AM.

You complain to anyone who will listen. You call the police. It does no good. Every Saturday night is a big party.

How do you solve it? Do you talk to your neighbor and work it out? Or do you get a rifle and kill him?

Of course, if you are sane, you control the problem with logic or communication.

Even if this neighbor shot his rifle at you, you probably wouldn't shoot back. Killing people is not a sane response. As any war veteran can tell you, shooting or bombing people causes a lifetime of depression.

So why does anyone start a war?

As a decorated Naval officer in World War II, L. Ron Hubbard experienced war firsthand. In a book called All About Radiation, he writes,

"Man has a madness and that madness is called war."

"A government becomes worried about its ability to control its populace* and neighbors and resorts to war as a means of compelling obedience at home as well as abroad.

"In actuality, a weakness and insecurity of government causes war. If a government were very strong and felt very secure, it would employ the most peaceful, quiet methods of granting beingness** and getting cooperation from its potential enemies. It wouldn't fight a war.

"One doesn't find an educated, secure man fighting with his neighbors. No, the person who fights his neighbors is a very insecure and not sane." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*Populace: All the people in an area.) (**Granting beingness: Allowing others to be who they are.)

Five Non-violent Recommendations

1. Whenever you want to attack someone, find out where you are weak or insecure. Improve your personal power in these areas and your urge to attack disappears!

2. Grant beingness to your enemies. Decide that it is okay for them to be who they are, even if they are different than you. They will no longer seem like enemies!

3. If you can't control people that you should control, get smarter. Use your communication skills, personal charm and intelligence to gain their cooperation. As history always proves, control with violence is temporary; control through cooperation lasts forever.

4. Whenever you hear someone recommend violence as a solution, find out what makes him or her feel weak or insecure. Discuss solutions that use logic, communication and personal improvement.

5. As you reduce the weakness and insecurity in yourself and others, you will want to attack the bigger enemies in our world: starvation, disease, global warming, insufficient water, insufficient power, bad education, crime, drug addiction, insanity and more.

Imagine a world without these problems!


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TipsForSuccess: Who Do You Blame?


Who Do You Blame?

No one wins the blame game.

For example, you make a mistake and feel guilty. So you blame someone or something.

"I crashed the car because you played the radio too loud!"

"It's not my fault the soup is too salty! It's your stupid recipe."

"If we had a newer computer, I wouldn't have deleted the computer files."

Blame is frequently used to explain poor job performance.

"My boss is such a jerk, I can't get my work done."

"I closed my painting shop and went bankrupt because of the economy."

"I don't get paid enough to be nice to EVERY customer."

Blame is also used for personal problems.

"I'm depressed because of the tragedies on television."

"I can't be faithful to my wife because I have a chemical imbalance."

"I can't stop smoking because my father used to spank me."

Why You Can't Win the Blame Game

When you blame someone or something else, you actually make yourself weak and ineffective. You make yourself "at effect" instead of being "at cause" of the situation. You give power to the person or thing you blame.

"Blaming something else makes that something else cause; and as that cause takes on power, the individual in the same act loses control and becomes effect." -- L. Ron Hubbard

For example, your business is failing and you blame your assistant. You are making your assistant more powerful than you. You might say, "My assistant messed up my business, " which is just another way of saying, "My assistant determines if my business succeeds or fails."

If you take responsibility for your business, you would say, "I need to train my assistant so he doesn't make mistakes" or "I'd better fire my assistant so my business will succeed."

As another example, you might blame your parents for your stress and anxiety. This makes your parents responsible for your feelings. You might say, "My parents ruined my life" which is the same as saying, "My parents are so powerful, they control my emotions. I have no control over my anxiety."

Stopping the blame game and accepting responsibility for yourself gives you new hope. "My parents didn't ruin my life. I ruined my life by being lazy and unemployed. I just need to improve my opinion about myself and get busy."

While blaming people for your problems is silly, blaming physical objects is even worse. "My house is so ugly, I feel depressed." "Hot weather makes me go crazy!" "My body has a disorder which makes me fat." In these cases, you are actually saying, "My life is controlled by _______."

If you wish to succeed, you have to end the blame game. You only get ahead when you become "cause" over the situation. " I'll stop watching TV and paint my house a nice color." "I'll stay inside so the hot weather doesn't bother me." "I'm only fat because I eat too much and don't exercise."

Five Steps for Ending the Blame Game

1. Make four columns on a sheet of paper.

2. In the first column, list all of the problems or conditions you blame on others or things. Example: "I can't stop smoking because I'm addicted to nicotine."

3. In the next column, write how you are responsible for each problem or condition. Example: "I am the one who decided to become a smoker."

4. Write how you can take more responsibility for each. Example: "I could be more determined to quit smoking."

5. In the last column, write down an action step you can take for each problem or condition. Example: "Each time I want a cigarette this week, take a 15-minute walk first."

Five Benefits of Taking More Responsibility

* Other people and things have less control over your destiny.

* Poor conditions start to improve.

* You make fewer mistakes.

* No one can control you without your consent.

* You become the most powerful force in your future success.


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