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How to Boost Your Personal Power

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How to Boost Your Personal Power

The greater your personal power, the greater your success. The method for increasing your personal power in this week's article was described by L. Ron Hubbard in 1958.

"Power is contained in the ability to maintain a position in space. If you can't maintain a position in space you will never have any power." -- L. Ron Hubbard


Try this demonstration. Put a coin on your desk. Move it around with the tip of your finger. Now, with your thumb, firmly press down on the coin. Make it hold a position. Try to move it around with a finger. Because the coin holds its position, it has power.

Holding a position on a principle is very important for your personal power. For example, someone at your job says, “Will you tell the boss I met my quota so I can get a bonus?” You say, “No, sorry, I can't lie for you.” No matter what the person tries to make you lie, you hold a position.

Do you remember a time when you held a position on something that was important to you? But then someone convinced you to change your mind? How did you feel?

Do you remember another time when you held a position on something important? No matter what anyone said, you stuck to your idea? How did you feel?

Three More Examples


1. Joe is happily married to June. One day, Joe runs into his ex-girlfriend. She says, “I sure miss you! Let's go to my apartment for some wine, okay?” Joe holds a position on what he knows is right and says, “Great! I'll pick up June on the way because she'd love to meet you.”

2. You decide to stop smoking. After the first day, your body screams, “Get me a cigarette!” You hold a position and refuse. During the second day, your body says, “I will die if I don't have a smoke you jerk!” You hold a position and eat a carrot. Because you hold a position, your body's addiction gives up and you become a nonsmoker.

3. You need to finish a report for your boss by morning. Most of the report is in your laptop and you decide to finish it at home. After dinner, you discover your laptop won't start. You try everything you know to get it working with no success. You call for tech support, but the computer company is closed. You call a friend who says, “Don't worry. Your boss will understand.”

You decide to hold a position and to make it go right. You pull out a writing pad and start to write. At midnight, your spouse says, “I'm sure your boss will understand if you don't finish the report. Come to bed!” You feel really tired and decide to climb into bed.

After a few minutes, you decide to hold a position regarding the report. So despite feeling tired and having a bad laptop, you get up and continue handwriting the report. At 5 AM, you finish the first version. You think, “My boss will understand that it looks sloppy.”

Yet once again, you decide to hold a position. You remember you are a professional.

So you get dressed and arrive at the office an hour early. You use a desk computer to type up the report. By 8 AM, the report is done and it is perfect. Your boss says, “Thanks.” You feel powerful.

Maintaining Your Power


When you hold a position on a constructive, beneficial position, you earn respect and support. The people around you realize you have good intentions and that you usually do the right thing. They learn they can trust you.

For example, a friend says, “Don't tell the store you dropped the television. Just take it back and tell them it didn't work in the first place.”

You say, “No, I'll tell the truth and try to work something out.”

Later, your friend calls and says, “You were right about the TV. Can you help me with my investments? I know I can trust you.”

When an antisocial person holds a position on destructive or evil positions, he or she eventually fails. Most people in this world prefer good intentions. Sooner or later, they learn who has bad intentions and withdraw support or fight back.

For example, a coworker says, “Let's have some fun and all go get drunk!” At first, a few people go with him, but they soon discover he is an alcoholic and gets mean when he's drunk. No matter how often he holds a position and demands that people go with him, he ends up drinking alone.

Holding a position to destroy something good, hurt someone or prove others are wrong is a poor use of your personal power. You may win the battle, but you lose respect, trust and support.

Holding a position to do good is an excellent use of your personal power. You make a more successful, happier life for you and others. You win the battle and earn respect, trust and support.

Recommendations


1. Write down five examples where you should hold a position.

For example, times when you let people push you around. Situations where you should say, “No” or “Yes” but you back down. Attitudes, reactions or habits for which you should take a stand.

2. Select an easy item on the list that will benefit you and others if you hold a position on it. Write down how you will hold your ground.

3. Do it! Hold a position on this thing as soon as possible. Notice how you feel.

4. Continue to strengthen your personal power by holding your position with tougher and tougher situations, especially those positions that help you and others succeed.

5. You will find it gets easier and easier to hold your position in space. You become more powerful than ever before.


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TipsForSuccess: "The Consequences of Lying"

 


Why Lie?

Why would you deliberately give someone the wrong impression? What would make you alter or exaggerate the facts? Why would you present a false picture?

Whether you call them white lies, fibs, half-truths or exaggerations, lying is lying.

For example, you spill some water on your office's copy machine and it makes a funny sound. Just as you leave the room to find a towel, your boss walks in and tries to make a copy.

He says, "Hey! Why isn't the copier working? And who spilled this water?"

You shrug and mumble, "Umm, don't know" as your face turns red.

You wonder, "Why did I just lie to my boss?"

"Lies are told because one is afraid of the consequences* should one tell the truth." -- L. Ron Hubbard
(*consequences = effects, results)

You cannot face what will happen, so you lie. You are afraid of the consequences for telling the truth, such as these:

* Your status may suffer
* You may be punished
* You will look stupid
* Someone will get angry
* You would have to admit you were wrong

However, lying can have far worse consequences!

Results of Lying


Lying causes anxiety, depression and physical illness. You constantly worry your lies will be revealed. Keeping your stories straight requires a lot of work.

After you lie to someone, you may not like being around that person. Lies ruin friendships, work relationships and marriages.

If someone catches you lying, he or she won't easily believe you again. Your status in that person's eyes drops to zero.

How to Tell the Truth Despite the Consequences


You lie because you are afraid of what might happen, if you tell the truth. You're afraid you can't handle the consequences. But then the lie becomes a problem and you suffer worse consequences.

So instead of worrying about the consequences as your first priority, make it your second priority. Tell the truth as your first priority and then deal with the consequences.

1. Tell the truth.
2. Immediately face the consequences.
3. Relax.

For example, you spill water on the copier. Your boss walks in and tries to make a copy.

Your boss says, "Hey! Why isn't the copier working? And who spilled this water?"

Instead of worrying about getting in trouble, you make the truth your first priority.

"I did."

You then deal with the consequences.

"I'm soooo sorry! I'll be responsible for it. I'm getting a towel and will be right back!"

You told the truth and will soon be through the ordeal. No lie to cover up. Your boss may yell, but will also appreciate your honesty.

Seven Benefits of Telling the Truth


1. Because you tell the truth, you don't have to remember what you said to whom. You won't accidentally contradict yourself.

2. You earn the reputation as an honest person. If you are a manager, your staff members tell each other, "Our boss might be more honest about your work than you sometimes want to hear, but it's better to know the truth."

3. People follow your example and are more truthful to you.

4. Your stress level drops. You sleep better, eat better and look better.

5. You can look at yourself in the mirror. Lying causes self-criticism and depression. Honesty causes self-confidence and pride.

6. You are more persuasive. To be persuasive, you need to be believable. To be believable, you must be truthful.

7. Best of all, you are trustworthy. When people can trust you, you earn their support. You need peoples' support to reach your goals.

"Trustworthiness is a highly esteemed commodity*. When one has it, one is considered valuable. When one has lost it, one may be considered worthless." -- L. Ron Hubbard
(commodity: something useful or valuable)
 


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TipsForSuccess: "Boost Your Income by Attracting More Attention"


Boost Your Income by Attracting More Attention

"Money flows toward points which attract prosurvival attention. You make as much money as you get attention." -- L. Ron Hubbard
(prosurvival: something that aids or assists you or others)

Step One


You can attract attention by committing a crime, but instead of getting rich, you go to prison. You attracted nonsurvival attention.

You attract prosurvival attention when you first help people with their health, their lifestyle, their careers, their businesses and so on. For example, not long ago, computers began helping people and businesses in many incredible ways. As a result, thousands of people in the computer industry became millionaires.

On an individual level, you need to be doing something that is prosurvival to others. You need to be helping your company, your co-workers, your clients or customers.

Step Two


You then attract attention and show how you help people with their survival, happiness and success. As a result, you make money.

Businesses that attract attention succeed. For example, McDonald's and Wal-Mart dominate their industries, but they continue to spend millions in advertising. In fact, because advertising has never been cheaper, smart companies are jumping in with both feet!

You, as an individual, can also attract good attention. You simply tell people about your prosurvival product or service. You get people to notice you. You brag it up!

For example, a friendly, helpful car salesman always wore a green hat. Like many salesmen, he truly helped people. All his customers remembered and recommended him, not by his name, but as the "guy in the green hat." The hat got him attention and he wore it every day for decades. Those who knew him claimed he sold more vehicles than anyone in history.

Ten Tips For Attracting Prosurvival Attention


Business increase their income by attracting prosurvival attention with many forms of public relations and marketing activities. You can do the same as an individual with actions like these.

1. Do things that are so beneficial that others are compelled to spread the news.

2. Share stories about your happy customers with other customers.

3. Promote something unique about yourself, like the man in the green hat. Stand out from the crowd.

4. Strike up conversations with strangers whenever possible.

5. Spread the news about your good work to everyone at your job, especially your boss.

6. Go to social events and meet as many new people as you can.

7. Get your family and friends to talk about the many ways you help people.

8. Speak in public at every opportunity.

9. Post your prosurvival ideas on the web (blogs, social networks, forums, your web pages).

10. Look and act like a professional at all times.

The more attention you attract, the more money you can make.

Start!


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TipsForSuccess: "The Root of a Successful Marriage"

 

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The Root of a Successful Marriage

"You want to know why somebody is failing consistently in his marriage. It's because he's unwilling to take responsibility for others than himself." -- L. Ron Hubbard


People who do not take responsibility for others have failed marriages as well as failed jobs, failed businesses and failed friendships.

Because they are unwilling to take responsibility for their mates or spouses, they say things like:

"I was so stupid to marry you!"
"He's your kid, not mine."
"That's the dumbest career choice you've ever made."
"You're really getting fat."
"I'm telling your mom about you."
"If you had checked the car's oil like I said, it wouldn't need all these repairs."
"You can't communicate."
"My husband didn't show up for work? Not my problem."
"My wife maxed out the credit cards, so she can pay them, I won't."

A marriage is miserable when the husband and wife are unwilling to be responsible for each other. They argue, fight, blame, criticize, scream and cry. The marriage ends in divorce.

The Responsible Marriage


"The willingness to take responsibility for somebody other than yourself is at the root of every successful marriage." -- L. Ron Hubbard


When you take responsibility for someone else, you accept their actions as your own. You care for the person, guard the person, help the person and are interested in the person. You accept the person as he or she is.

When you are willing to take responsibility for your mate, you say things like:

"We made a good decision to get married. I think we'll make it better and better."
"He's our kid and I love him."
"If that's the career choice you want to make, I'll support you on it."
"Should we work on losing weight together? How about if we both start exercising and eating better."
"We'd better fix this problem before your parents finds out."
"Oops! We forgot to watch the car's oil. I'll get it fixed tomorrow."
"We need to fix our communication. Is it okay with you if we turn off the TV and listen to each other."
"My husband didn't show up for work? I'll find him and one of us will call you right back."
"We maxed out the credit cards and we'll pay them off."

A marriage is joyful when the husband and wife take responsibility for each other. They create a happy home for themselves and their children. They stay in love.


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