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TipsForSuccess: The Root of a Successful Marriage

 

 

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The Root of a Successful Marriage


"You want to know why somebody is failing consistently in his marriage. It's because he's unwilling to take responsibility for others than himself." -- L. Ron Hubbard

People who do not take responsibility for others have failed marriages as well as failed jobs, failed businesses and failed friendships.

Because they are unwilling to take responsibility for their mates or spouses, they say things like:

1. "I was so stupid to marry you!"
2. "He's your kid, not mine."
3. "That's the dumbest career choice you've ever made."
4. "You're really getting fat."
5. "Can you please SHUT UP?"
6. "If you had checked the car's oil like I said, it wouldn't need all these repairs."
7. "You can't communicate."
8. "My husband didn't show up for work? Not my problem."
9. "My wife maxed out the credit cards, so she can pay them, I won't."
10. "I'm sick of hearing about your problems."

A marriage is miserable when the husband and wife are unwilling to be responsible for each other. They argue, fight, blame, criticize, scream and cry. The marriage ends in divorce.

The Responsible Marriage

"The willingness to take responsibility for somebody other than yourself is at the root of every successful marriage." -- L. Ron Hubbard

When you take responsibility for someone else, you accept their actions as your own. You care for the person, guard the person, help the person and are interested in the person. You accept the person as he or she is.

When you are willing to take responsibility for your mate, you say things like:

1. "We made a good decision to get married. I think we'll make it better and better."
2. "He's our kid and I love him."
3. "If that's the career choice you want to make, I'll support you on it."
4. "Let's work together and both lose weight. How about if we both stop eating junk food?"
5. "Sorry, I can't listen to you right now, but will in a minute."
6. "Oops! We forgot to watch the car's oil. I'll get it fixed tomorrow."
7. "We need to fix our communication. Is it okay with you if we turn off the TV and listen to each other."
8. "My husband didn't show up for work? I'll find him and one of us will call you right back."
9. "We maxed out the credit cards and we'll pay them off."
10. "What can I do to help you?"

A marriage is joyful when the husband and wife take responsibility for each other. They create a happy home for themselves and their children. They stay in love.

 

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TipsForSuccess: Boost Your Income by Attracting More Attention

 

 

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Boost Your Income by Attracting More Attention


"Money flows toward points which attract prosurvival attention. You make as much money as you get attention." -- L. Ron Hubbard (prosurvival: something that aids or assists you or others)

Prosurvival Attention

You can attract attention by committing a crime, but instead of getting rich, you go to prison. You attracted nonsurvival attention.

You attract prosurvival attention when you first help people with their health, their lifestyle, their careers, their businesses and so on. For example, not long ago, computers began helping people and businesses in many incredible ways. This attracted a lot of attention. As a result, thousands of people in the computer industry became millionaires.

On an individual level, you need to be doing something that is prosurvival to others. You need to be helping your company, your co-workers and your clients or customers.

Attracting Attention

You then attract attention and show how you help people with their survival, happiness and success. As a result, you make money.

Businesses that attract attention succeed. For example, McDonald's and Wal-Mart dominate their industries, yet they continue to spend millions in advertising. In fact, because advertising has never been cheaper, smart companies are promoting themselves like never before!

You, as an individual, can also attract good attention. You simply tell people about your prosurvival product or service. You get people to notice you. You brag it up!

For example, a friendly, helpful car salesman always wore a green hat. Like many salesmen, he truly helped people. All his customers remembered and recommended him, not by his name, but as the "guy in the green hat." The hat gave him prosurvival attention and he wore it every day for over 30 years. Those who knew him claimed he sold more vehicles than anyone else in the history of cars.

Ten Tips For Attracting Attention

Businesses increase their incomes by attracting prosurvival attention with many forms of public relations and marketing activities. You can do the same as an individual with actions like these.

1. Do things that are so beneficial that others are compelled to spread the news.

2. Share stories about how you are helping customers or clients. Tell everyone will listen.

3. Promote something unique about yourself, like the man in the green hat. Stand out from the crowd.

4. Strike up conversations with strangers whenever possible.

5. Spread the news about your good work to everyone at your job, especially your boss.

6. Go to social events and meet as many new people as you can.

7. Get your family and friends to talk about the many ways you help people.

8. Speak in public at every opportunity.

9. Post your prosurvival acts and ideas on the web, such as Facebook, blogs, your website and so on.

10. Look and act like a professional at all times.

Remember: the more attention you attract to your prosurvival activities, the more money you will make.

Start!

 

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TipsForSuccess: Your Success is in the Present

 

 

 

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Your Success is in the Present


Do you constantly think about the future? Does tomorrow seem scary and uncertain? Are you worried how it will all turn out?

Maybe your attention is in the past. Do you dwell on old decisions? Do people from your past still affect you? Are you constantly thinking of accidents, attacks or injuries?

If so, you are missing the best part of life.

What is Sanity?

When you are in good condition, you are in the here and now. You are aware of the present. Your thoughts and attention are neither in the past nor in the future.

". . . the very, very sane confront the present entirely and have very little concern for the future, being competent enough in handling the present to let the future take care of itself." -- L. Ron Hubbard

If you think about it, present time is all there really is. The past and the future exist only in our minds. Present time is reality.

Try getting your attention completely in the present. Look at an object for 10 seconds. Try to do nothing but look at the object. Can you keep your attention in the present for the entire 10 seconds? Do thoughts of the past or future slip in?

10 Benefits of Getting Your Attention in the Present

1. Your powers of perception are greatly increased as you see things exactly as they are.

2. You don't beat yourself up for your bad choices in the past or potential weaknesses in the future.

3. You look at others as they actually are. This is much more accurate than how they were or how you hope they will be.

4. Bad memories have no effect on you.

5. Future worries have no effect on you.

6. Your job performance is far superior as you are more alert.

7. You perceive more, experience more and enjoy more.

8. You make better decisions because you view the facts as they actually are, right now.

9. Bad news does not bother you as much because it does not remind you of similar bad news from the past.

10. You have fewer accidents and injuries. Your mind does not wander. Your reactions are faster.

Two Ways to Live More in the Present

1. Increase your ability to focus your attention on the present.

Practice, practice, practice. Every time you find yourself thinking about the past, look at an object. Move your attention back to the present.

When speaking to people, really look at them. Focus on what they are saying.

When working, do nothing but work. Dive into your tasks with all of your attention.

Live in the present with all your activities: driving, eating, walking, playing, reading, talking, even while watching a movie.

2. Reduce the negative influences of bad incidents in your past.

Bad incidents from your past can also make you worry too much about the future. You are worried, consciously or unconsciously, that these bad things might happen again.

To reduce the power of the past, you need to face the details of the past and resolve them so they no longer bother you. Unfortunately, you cannot do it by yourself.

Mr. Hubbard found irrational behavior stems from experiences in the past. In fact, everything you dislike about yourself is based on something in your past.

An easy, safe method for resolving your past is explained in "Dianetics: The Modern Science of Mental Health" by L. Ron Hubbard. When you use Dianetics, you and a partner help each other by following the instructions in this best-selling book.

You can find Dianetics in bookstores, used bookstores or libraries. It is also available at www.bridgepub.com and www.tipsforsuccess.org/bookstore.htm.

A DVD set called "How To Use Dianetics" contains a complete visual presentation of Dianetics. After watching the 32 short, easy-to-understand videos, you will know how to use Dianetics to live more in the present and increase your power to succeed.

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"Never regret yesterday. Life is in you today and you make your tomorrow." -- L. Ron Hubbard

 

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TipsForSuccess: Intention Power

 

 

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The Power of Intention


"If you intend something to happen, it happens, if you intend it to happen. Verbalization* is not the intention. The intention is the carrier wave which takes the verbalization along with it." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*verbalization: expressing oneself in words.)

When you use the correct level of intention in your communication, people pay attention to you.

For example, you are in a busy clothing store and need a clerk's help. With poor intention, you might wait all day. But with strong intention, you look at the clerk, his head whips around and he asks if he can help you.

When you add firm intention to your communication, you get better results.

For example, if you tell your children to clean up their rooms with weak intention, they continue to play around. If you tell them to clean their rooms with strong intention, they clean their rooms.

Intention at Work

Your job is easier when you use the correct amount of intention.

For example, a coworker named Chris likes to complain to you. Chris says, "I hate this crappy chair." "This weather is horrible." "Oh no, here comes Mr. Big again."

Tolerating or avoiding Chris resolves nothing. Your workplace remains stressful.

Yet if you look Chris in the eye and say, "Chris, stop complaining," you enjoy some wonderful results - if your intention is strong enough. It does not matter how loudly or softly you speak as verbalization has nothing to do with it. Your intention powers your statement.

A salesperson, with a strong intention to sell, gets more sales. A service representative, with a strong intention to make customers happy, makes customers happy. A job applicant, with a strong intention to land the job, gets the job.

A manager with poor intention gets little cooperation and eventually fails. However, a manager with strong intention, finds that his or her employees usually do what they were hired to do.

Exercise

1. Write down something that is difficult for you to get someone to do.

For example, your coworker Joe borrows your stapler and always forgets to bring it back. You need your stapler back, but it's always a hassle.

2. Practice asking for the thing you wrote in step #1. You can use a coach or friend, or even just talk to an object.

For our example, pretend to ask Joe to return your stapler, but use little or no intention. Really be weak.

You say, "Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it." However, in your mind, say, "Hi Joe, hey if you don't mind could you please return my stapler if you have nothing else to do please?"

Even though this seems silly, practice using very weak intention until you can do it easily.

3. Now practice use more intention than is necessary!

In this exercise step, you verbally say, "Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it" as you did in the step above, but now your intention is "JOE, BRING BACK MY STAPLER RIGHT NOW!"

Do this step a few times until you can do it easily.

4. Next, use the correct amount of intention.

You still say, "Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it," and your intention is very clear: "Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it."

Your intention is not too weak and it is not too strong. It is just right.

Repeat this step a few times until it is comfortable for you.

5. When you are ready, go use your intention to get what you want. Get someone to do something that has been difficult for you to ask in the past. Get them to do what you ask.

If you use the correct amount of intention, the results will be amazing!

6. Repeat with anything that is difficult for you to get others to do.

You now have more power.

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