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TipsForSuccess: Happy Living

 

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How to Be Happy


Many people believe they cannot be happy. They say, "Anyone who tells you they're happy is lying." "I'd be happy if I had a better _____ (spouse, job, body, house, income, parent, child, boss, employee, government)." "Life stinks and then you die." 

The truth is, you are the one who controls the amount of joy you have in your life. You control it based on how well you follow these two rules:

"One: Be able to experience anything.

"Two: Cause only those things which others are able to experience easily." -- L. Ron Hubbard from Scientology: A New Slant on Life

Rule One


Every time you are unhappy, there is something you cannot experience. You cannot "be there" with it. You cannot face it. 

For example, you are unhappy when someone yells at you. You cannot stand it. It ruins your day.

So you decide you will learn to take it. You practice by having a friend yell at you until you can experience it. You realize it's simply noise. Because you can experience people yelling at you, it no longer makes you unhappy.

"To be happy, one only must be able to confront, which is to say, experience those things that are." -- L. Ron Hubbard

As another example, you need to give presentations at your job. However, you hate speaking to groups. You make up excuses and avoid this part of your job until you get fired.

If instead, you face the music and give the talks, you succeed. Despite your fear, you face and experience the audience. You confront the job and feel happy.

Wealth Tip


Rule One gives you an opportunity to increase your income. If you can easily experience work that most people can't or won't do, you become more valuable.

For example, understanding complicated laws, performing heart surgery and managing thousands of people are difficult jobs to experience. This is why lawyers, doctors and CEOs make more money than others. Jobs like selling hot dogs or answering telephones are easy to experience and so do not pay as well.

What valuable work can you do that others can't easily experience? What are the most difficult things for you to experience at work? If you could easily experience them, what would happen with your pay?

Rule Two


"Two: Cause only those things which others are able to experience easily." -- L. Ron Hubbard

This means you need to pay attention to others. Everyone experiences things differently.

For example, your colorful language offends your mother, but makes your friend laugh. Spending the day at a shopping mall is a joy for your daughter, but a boring waste of time for your son. Your political views enrage your father-in-law, but inspire your neighbor.

To be happy, you cannot have attitudes like these: "I'll say whatever I want to anyone I want." "If you don't like what I do, that's your problem." "It's dishonest to not say how I feel."

If you don't care about other people's happiness, the people around you will eventually not care about your happiness either. Everyone becomes unhappy.

"To create only those effects which others could easily experience gives us a clean new rule of living." -- L. Ron Hubbard

If you follow this rule, your work relationships, marriage and friendships all thrive. If you break this rule, you lose friends and make enemies.

For example, you notice that your spouse cannot easily experience you complaining about your work. You stop complaining and your spouse is more cheerful. You feel happier. The rule worked.

Employees and Children


You may think this second rule means you can't demand good performance from employees. For example, "My employees can't easily experience hard work, so I'll be soft on them."

However, laziness ruins productivity which ruins your company. A bankrupt company is difficult for everyone to experience! 

So you learn to demand good performance in a way that others can easily experience. "Let's get 100 parts built by Friday and I'll buy everyone lunch!" Everyone is productive AND happy.

As another example, children may not like brushing their teeth, but tooth pain is much more difficult to experience. So you get your kids to brush without anger or threats. "Let's all go brush our teeth right now" "Brush your teeth after each meal and you'll earn a sticker each time!"

How to Be Happy Right Now


What is making you unhappy right now? 

Which of the two rules do you need to follow?

"One: Be able to experience anything." "Two: Cause only those things which others are able to experience easily." -- L. Ron Hubbard

What can you do right now to follow that rule?

How to Be Happy Next Week


1. Write down everything that might be hard for you to experience next week.
2. Write what you can do next week to more easily experience these things.
3. List out what you might do or say next week that others may not easily experience. 
4. Write how you can accomplish your objectives next week while only causing things that others can easily experience.

Make these changes and you might have your happiest, most successful week ever!


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TipsForSuccess: The Do-It-Now Habit

 

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The Do-It-Now Habit

 

Do you feel overworked? Do you have too much to do? Are you not making the progress you want to be making toward your goals?

 

Why can some people produce twice as much as others? For example, Jane not only handles three kids, but works 30 hours per week and runs a small business from her home office. Jane's house is always clean and she prepares delicious, healthy meals for her family.

 

Jill, on the other hand, has one daughter, makes no money, has no time to do her housework and prefers pizza delivery dinners.

 

Both Jane and Jill are good mothers, but why are they so different? Why is Jane so efficient?

 

To be more like Jane and less Jill, break two bad habits and form one good habit.

 

Two Bad Habits

 

1. The first bad habit is to look at a piece of work you are supposed to do -- a task, a program, a communication, an assignment or - and put it aside to do later.

 

Instead of acting, you read it, digest it, think about doing it, consider the problems, sigh, and put it down to do later. Nothing is accomplished. A total waste of time.

 

2. The second bad habit is taking a piece of work, look at it and refer it to someone else. Even though it's your job, you try to get someone else to do it. The other person eventually sends it back to you. A total waste of your time AND the other person's time.

 

One Good Habit

 

"Do it Now."

 

"One of the best ways to cut your work in half is not to do it twice."

 

"If you do every piece of work that comes your way WHEN it comes your way and not after a while, if you always take the initiative and take action, not refer it, you never get any traffic back . . . "

 

"In short, the way to get rid of traffic is to do it, not to refer it; anything referred has to be read by you again, digested again, and handled again; so never refer traffic, just do it so it's done."

 

"So if you are truly a lover of ease, the sort of person who yawns comfortably and wears holes in heels resting them on desks, if your true ambition is one long bout of spring fever, then you'll do as I suggest and handle everything that comes your way when it comes and not later; and you'll never refer anything to anybody that you yourself can do promptly."

 

"Do it when you see it and do it yourself." -- L. Ron Hubbard

 

For example, the government sends you a tax form asking you for some financial information. You take ten minutes to understand what is required and realize it's quite simple. You notice it's not due for two months, but instead of tossing it in your desk to do later, you take another ten minutes to find the information, fill out the form and drop it in the mail.

 

If you wait to fill out the form later, you have had to spend another ten minutes to understand it again. Perhaps you look at the form every few days, think it over and decide to wait. You might even forget do fill out the form and then waste even more time trying to understand why the government is charging you a $250 late fee.

 

As another example, you notice your car tire is a little low and you fill it right now. If you wait, you get a flat tire while driving to work. You are not only two hours late for work, you have to buy a new tire.

 

More examples:

 

Your food explodes in the microwave? You clean it up now.

 

Your boss asks for a report? You write it and turn it in now.

 

Your group needs a decision from you? You make it now.

 

When you jump and do things at your first opportunity, you stay in better control of your job and your life while earning hours of extra time to use however you wish.

 

How to Form the Do-It-Now Habit

 

The best time to get into a do-it-now habit is, of course, RIGHT NOW!

 

1. Take a stack of papers, task or any kind of cluttered mess that you need to handle.

 

2. Take the first item.

 

3. Deal with it, handle it, do it now.

 

". . . take the initiative and take action. . . ."

 

4. If you find it hard to do it now, remember the reward. If you get your work done in half the time, how will you spend the OTHER half of your time? Earning more money? Starting new projects? Having more fun? The choice is yours.

 

Give it a try.

 

Now!


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TipsForSuccess: The Power of Good Manners

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The Power of Good Manners


Do you like rude people? Do you mind if someone interrupts you? Are you happy when people ignore you?

Of course not. No one likes bad manners.

People with bad manners are rejected. They do not get the good jobs or the promotions. Their businesses do not succeed.

People with good manners are accepted. They are liked and supported. They have friends, luck and success.

"In a culture, manners are the lubrication that ease the frictions of social contacts." -- L. Ron Hubbard

When you improve your manners, you improve your chances for success.

12 Examples of Good Manners


1. Be polite to everyone you meet. You will never regret being too polite, but you might regret being rude. For example, when you go on a sales call or job interview, be courteous to receptionists and assistants as they can affect your chances of succeeding.

2. Use the magic words as often as possible: "Hello," "Please," "Excuse me," "Sorry" and these two most important words: "Thank you."

3. Use good manners in all of your communications. Examples:
    Return telephone and e-mail messages within 24 hours.
    Do not use swear words or vulgar words.
    If you receive a rude message, do not respond with rudeness, but be polite.
    Do not interrupt people.
    Make sure people are ready to listen to you before you start talking.
    Talk less than 50% of the time.

4. Leave generous tips for food servers, luggage handlers, car valets, hairdressers or barbers who do their jobs.

5. Use good manners as a driver. Weaving in and out of heavy traffic and cutting in front of other cars only gains you a few seconds of time. If you are courteous, patient and calm, you arrive safely and more relaxed.

6. Do not blow your nose, use toothpicks or perform other bodily activities in front of guests or people you respect. Never smoke around a non-smoker.

7. Show your appreciation at every opportunity, even for small things. "Thank you for returning my call." "Your advice has been very helpful." "I appreciate your taking the time to meet with me."

8. Arrive on time or early for appointments. When you arrive late, you appear to be disrespectful, disorganized or both.

9. A good sense of humor is good manners. However, jokes about race, disability or sex are bad manners. Tell clean jokes about yourself or pass on humorous stories that anyone would enjoy.

10. If someone treats you with bad manners, do not lower yourself to the same level. Smooth out the friction with your best manners. For example, "I'm sure you have a good reason to swear at me, but I think we can work this out so we're both happy. Can you take a minute and try?"

11. Before starting important conversations, meals or meetings, turn off your cell phone. Ignoring people while you use your cell phone is disrespectful. You can probably leave your cell phone off for hours with no lasting harm.

12. Do not try to show off or prove you are more important than others. This is called "one-upmanship" and is poor manners. For example, a friend is excited about meeting an important scientist. You immediately "top" him and tell about the time when you met a much more important scientist. Instead, share your friend's excitement without bringing up your own story.

As you improve your manners, you will enjoy more support, admiration and respect from everyone around you.


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TipsForSuccess: Being Too Serious Blocks Your Success

 

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Being Too Serious Blocks Your Success


Are you having fun? Do you get a thrill from your work? Do you enjoy waking up each morning?

Myths about work can hurt your progress. "Work is not supposed to be fun." "You must buckle down and get serious."

Perhaps the biggest myth of all: "People will think I'm important if I act seriously." Yet getting serious creates problems: stress, worry, anxiety, emotional pain, drudgery and failure.

Resolving problems by getting more serious is like fixing a computer with a hammer. The harder you try, the worse the problem becomes.

"When life becomes serious, a man becomes less cause and greater effect. If life gets really serious, his value drops to practically zero. Driving a car can become such serious business that one can wreck the car. Running a business can become so serious as to make it fail. There is a direct connection between insanity and seriousness." "It is only when an individual progresses in life to a point where much seriousness is attached to things that he begins to have a hard time. The ancient Italian really knew what he was about when he considered that the only psychotherapy was laughter." -- L. Ron Hubbard

12 Ways to Lighten Up!


Approaching your life with a non-serious attitude gives you a clearheaded view of difficulties and the energy to deal with them. Problems are easier to solve, people are more cooperative and you feel more relaxed. You probably live longer, as well.

Try these ideas until you find one that lightens you up.

1. Deliberately turn a molehill into a mountain. Make a big deal out of a little problem. "I would feel much better if these papers were stacked exactly like this! Not like that! Like this! Not this! This!"

2. Ask yourself, "Is getting serious about this situation really going to improve it?"

3. Focusing on the positives. "What is right about this situation?" "What else is right?" "What else?"

4. Consider a complete, major change. For example, go back to school, move to the ocean, start a new career.

5. Ask yourself, "When I'm on my deathbed, will I be glad I was so serious about _______?"

6. A challenging game is much better than no game at all. So consider losing all aspects of the problem. Examples: You feel serious about family problems. You ask yourself, "Well, what if I had no family at all?" You feel serious about your investments. You ask yourself, "What if I had no money to invest?"

7. The size of your problem may match the size of your game. So get a bigger game. For example, if you get uptight about paper clips being in the wrong drawer, your game size is tiny. Double your amount of responsibility. Set some huge goals. Succeed by thinking much, much bigger.

8. Stop trying to solve the problem that is making you so serious. Certain types of problems solve themselves if you leave them alone. Your problem may be one of those.

9. Compare what you are doing to other careers. Imagine being a septic tank drainer or a tax collector.

10. Make everyone around you lighten up. Share a funny story that makes fun of you. Tell some clean jokes.

11. Look at bizarre solutions. What is the craziest way you could solve your problem? What solution, if it worked, would make you laugh out loud?

12. Act stupid for a minute. Let down your hair. Stop being so darn important for a while. Be a goof!

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