To Succeed, Let Others Control You "Control is so far from being bad that a person who is sane and in very good condition does not resent good, positive control and is himself able to administer* good, positive control to people and objects.
"A person who is not in very good condition resents even the most casual directions and is actually not capable of controlling people or objects. The latter person is also inefficient and has many difficulties with work and with life.
"When a person cannot control things, or when he resists things controlling him, he involves himself with difficulties not only with people, but with objects. It is also apparent that people with control difficulties more readily become ill and fail in other ways." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*administer: provide, dispense, give)
How do you feel when people give you orders or directions? Hopefully, you don't mind!
For example, if you are a busy business owner or executive, you must let your staff members control your time. For example, they may need to set your appointments or control where you go and who you see. If you don't let them control your time, you can become overwhelmed and inefficient.
As another example, Joe asks his wife to handle the family finances. Yet when she tries to control Joe's irresponsible spending, he argues about it. He spends the money however he likes despite his wife's efforts to control spending.
As a result, the couple's credit goes bad. They constantly fight. They blame money problems for their marriage problems, but the real problem is with Joe's inability to be controlled!
You see examples of this every day. A guy leaves the Army because he hates being bossed around. He tries to work at a car dealership, but leaves because he hates being bossed around. He fails at several other jobs as he hates control. He can't even stand driving a truck as his shippers want to control him. He prefers the "freedom" of homelessness and lives in a tunnel.
If you dislike being controlled, you probably feel a reactive irritation or anger when someone tries to control you. You may think being controlled is a sign of weakness or failure. You see no benefit to being controlled.
Yet if you decide to let someone help you, you must also let them control you.
For example, a dental patient needs help with her bad teeth and lets the dentist control her dental care. A failing basketball player needs help with his shooting and lets his coach control his practice routine. A business owner with low profit accepts help from a consultant and lets the consultant guide his actions.
As a result, you receive genuine, valuable help. You move up! You become more successful! Receiving Good, Positive Control Positive control is not forced on you. You trust that the person wishes you success, not harm. You know his or her control is for your benefit.
Positive control from others can improve all parts of your life. For example, a good accountant controls you to not violate tax laws. If you are a professional singer, your agent controls and helps you improve your income. If you are an employee, your boss controls you to improve your performance and value to the world.
When you are a customer, you must let the store, restaurant or business control you so you get what you want. When you are a medical patient, your health depends on letting doctors and nurses control you. As a citizen, you can be part of an orderly society when you let government representatives take control.
Husbands and wives must give and accept control from each other. Parents need to let their children control them at times. Even managers must let employees control them, when it is right for the group.
Positive control moves you in a positive direction. You end up with more money, success and joy than if you try keeping control a one-way street.
You happily accept control when you know it is for your benefit.
We all need to give and receive control to get the most from life. |
