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Two Reasons Why People Might Dislike You
When people do not like you, they ignore you, disagree with you or attack you.
So to make people like you, you might take extra showers, use a better mouth wash and buy new clothes. You might get a new haircut, buy colored contact lenses and try a different deodorant. Yet they still do not like you.
Even when you tell them how important or popular you are, they still do not like you. Why?
Possible Reason #1
"Asserting one's own importance is about as acceptable as a dead cat at a wedding." -- L. Ron Hubbard
For example, do you know someone who constantly tells you how important he or she is? Do you admire and respect this person?
To be more successful, you can use this idea in reverse. When you make people feel important, they feel good and want to be around you. Most people are more cooperative when they believe you have a high opinion of them.
Certain people are very sensitive about their importance. They get upset, angry, even violent if you treat them with disrespect; with less importance than they feel they deserve. In many cases, the less money, skill or power people have, the greater their need to feel important.
Giving or granting importance to others is a skill you can use to boost goodwill and cooperation. When you make people feel important, they trust you, believe you and like you. They make you successful.
Possible Reason #2
"Ignore people at your peril." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Do you know someone who walks with their nose in the air? Who walks by you as if you do not exist? How does this person make you feel?
You can ruin your success when you ignore people. For example, salespeople rarely get past receptionists when they treat receptionists like they do not exist. And receptionists get in trouble for ignoring people who look like a salespersons, but are actually VIPs.
Contrary to what you may have learned as a teenager, if you ignore people, they do not admire and respect you. Instead, they despise and hate you. Arrogance is not the same as popularity, power or expertise.
Noticing people is not only good manners, it shows the kind of person you are.
For example, Joe is going to the most important job interview in his career. He walks into the high-rise building like a big shot and gets into the elevator to go to the 30th floor. As the elevator doors close, a woman rushes up, but she can't make it as Joe just ignores her. He does not like overweight women. So of course, while waiting in the fancy lobby on th 30th floor, the overweight woman comes out to give Joe the interview.
Never assume anyone is unimportant.
Recommendations
"People have value and are important. Big or small they are important." -- L. Ron Hubbard
1. Instead of making yourself seem important, make other people feel important. Treat everyone you meet as a VIP.
2. Notice everyone you see. Give them your full attention and really listen to them.
Noticing people and making them feel important is essential to your success; you earn friendships that can last a lifetime.
Try it today! Notice everyone. Automatically respect them. Do not worry about your own importance.
With practice, you can notice people and make them feel important with just a glance.
Work on it!
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