Does the World Owe Anyone a Living?
The biggest problem with dentures (false teeth) is that they do not feel comfortable. Some people love their new dentures immediately while others are never happy with the fit and always seem to suffer.
Dissatisfied patients return to their dentists for frequent adjustments. They try different adhesives or simply start over. No matter what they do, their dentures never feel comfortable.
So a denture manufacturer conducted a study to find out why dentures easily fit the mouths of some patients, but were a constant problem with others.
As part of the study, they considered the types of material used in the dentures and the methods for shaping the dentures. They checked the dentists' training and techniques. Yet they could not find a common reason why certain patients hated their dentures.
But then they checked one other factor. Most of the patients who complained that their dentures did not fit had not paid for them!
If the patient or their insurance company had paid for the dentures, they seemed to fit better. If the dentures were not paid for, they did not fit as well.
Why would that matter?
"When you let somebody be dishonest, you are setting him up to become physically ill and unhappy."
"When you let a person give nothing for something, you are factually encouraging crime." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Lottery winners often lose all their money within a few years. They buy expensive cars and wreck them. They buy big houses and let them go to ruin. One man used his winnings to drink himself to death.
These poor people didn't earn the money. They got something for nothing so it meant nothing to them.
Down deep, everyone wants to be honest. When they get something for nothing they tend to waste it because they did nothing to deserve it.
When you perform some valuable work for someone, you must let them give you something back in exchange. If you do not let them give you something in return, they become unhappy. They may even resent your help.
You see this with governments. Some people accept money from the government to help them get back on their feet. They go to school, work hard and return the money they received by paying taxes. These people are healthy and happy.
Other people accept money from the government, but never get back to work. They watch television all day and gain weight. They are unhealthy and unhappy.
1. When people complain about what you do for them, check if they have given you a proper exchange in return. If not, make it a requirement and they will stop complaining about you.
2. Ensure you give an honest exchange for all the goods and services you receive. Like people with dentures, you will be happier with what you receive if you give a fair exchange.
3. Whenever you are unhappy or unhealthy, check if you are failing to give an honest exchange for what you receive. Find ways to be as honest as possible and match the exchange. In fact, give the world a little more than you receive and watch what happens to your health and happiness!
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A Tip for Success with Children
"A lot of this exchange imbalance comes from child psychology where the child is not contributing anything and is not permitted to contribute.
"It is this which first overwhelms him with feelings of obligation to his parents and then bursts out as total revolt in his teens.
"Children who are permitted to contribute (not as a cute thing to do but actually) make noncontributing children of the same age look like raving maniacs!" -- L. Ron Hubbard
When you make children give an exchange they become much happier! Children, as young as three, can contribute by picking up their toys, helping in the kitchen or singing a song.
If children are not allowed to work until they are adults, they depend too heavily on their parents or the government for their money. They do not learn how to earn.
Children want to work. It makes them feel valuable. Work makes them happy.
Smart parents let their children have real jobs. They patiently show their children how to work. For example, how to wash the windows so they are really clean, or how to walk the family dog every day, even when it is boring.
The most successful people in this world had real jobs when they are young. For example, they took care of the neighbors' yards or pets when they were 8. Or they drove a tractor on their family farms when they were 12.
When they became 18, they already had their own money and years of work experience. They could work an eight-hour day and earn their pay. They were striding up the road to their ultimate success.
Teach children (and adults) that the world does not owe them a living. They must find ways to exchange something valuable for the things they want. Help them enjoy the pride, health and happiness they get from earning an honest living.
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