Do You Give More Than You Receive?
Does life ever seem unfair to you?
For example, you give more gifts and holiday cheer than anyone gives to you. You give great advice, but never get thanked for it. You donate more than your fair share to those who are less fortunate than you.
And that's a good thing!
"A human being feels able and competent only so long as he is permitted to contribute as much or more than he has contributed to him." -- L. Ron Hubbard
For example, you promise to give five hours of work to Joe. During those hours, you are focused, efficient and professional. You get so involved with the job, you forget to watch the clock and end up working for almost six hours, but still only charge for five. Joe is impressed and you are proud. Your future with Joe feels secure.
As another example, you tell Chris, "You don't need to work. We'll just give you money each month." At first, Chris thinks, "This is a great deal!" But soon, she wonders, "Am I so useless that no one thinks I can work? Can't I make a contribution?" She feels unable and incompetent. If you then get Chris to do some difficult work for the money, she feels happy and secure.
As a final example, you encourage your children to contribute to the family. Your four-year old sweeps the floors each day. Your ten-year-old takes care of the pets. Your fifteen-year-old washes your car and the house windows every other week. Your family is happy as everyone feels able and competent.
"A man can over-contribute and feel secure in an environment. He feels insecure the moment he under-contributes, which is to say, gives less than he receives. If you don't believe this, recall a time when everyone else brought something to the party but you didn't. How did you feel? -- L. Ron Hubbard
Recommendation
Give a bit more to others than they give to you. Contribute excessive time, money or other forms of help to good causes or good people. Do not expect an exchange.
Continue to over-contribute whenever you can. Instead of having a fair exchange with others, arrange for an abundant exchange, with you always giving more than you receive.
You will then feel, as a result, more able, more competent and more secure. All three feelings are important ingredients to your success.
Happy Holidays! |
