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You Have the Power to Control How People Treat You

You can make people like you or hate you; respect you or criticize you; support you or chop you down.

You can also get people to trust you, support you and help you succeed.

The way you do this is outlined by L. Ron Hubbard in The Way to Happiness.

"Try to Treat Others as You Would Want Them to Treat You"

"Just figure out how you would want people to treat you.

"You would possibly, first of all, want to be treated justly: you wouldn't want people lying about you or falsely or harshly condemning you. Right?

"You would probably want your friends and companions to be loyal: you would not want them to betray you."

"You would want people to be fair in their dealings with you.

"You would want them to be honest with you and not cheat you. Correct?

"You might want to be treated kindly and without cruelty."

"You would probably prefer to be given respect, not insulted.

"Possibly you would want others to be polite to you and also treat you with dignity. Right?

"You might like people to admire you.

"When you did something for them you would possibly like people to appreciate you. Correct?

"You would probably like others to be friendly toward you.

"From some you might want love.

"And above all, you wouldn't want these people just pretending these things, you would want them to be quite real in their attitudes and to be acting with integrity*."

"It requires no great stretch of imagination for one to recognize that if he were to be treated that way regularly by others around him, his life would exist on a pleasant level." -- L. Ron Hubbard
(*integrity: honesty, truthfulness)

Three Steps to Get People to Treat You the Way You Want to Be Treated

1. Make a list of each person you wish to influence: spouse, children, parents, employees, bosses, co-workers, colleagues and so on.

2. Next to each name, write how you want them to treat you.

3. Then write how you will treat that person, in that same way.

In some cases, you might be amazed at how quickly this works.

In other cases, you may need to persist for a long time, so don't give up!

You can learn more about The Way to Happiness, or download a free copy of the complete booklet, at You can also buy a copy of the booklet from TipsForSuccess at

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