TipsForSuccess: Foolish Love

Foolish Love When you're in love, the whole world sings with you. Or does it? A young couple falls in love. All day long, they think about each other and talk to each other whenever they can. A beautiful obsession. But one day, one of them wants to spend time with an old friend. Jealousy flies into the picture. One person feels trapped. The other person feels abandoned. They argue and fight. No one is happy. Another couple celebrates their 25th wedding anniversary. They feel admiration and respect for each other. They spend time apart. They visit old friends. No one ever feels jealous. They are both happy. So what is better than helpless, foolish love? "Admiration betokens* in itself a kind of respect. It borders on liking, admiring. It's a much, much better word than love. "Love all too often is a compulsive passion which devours the very young." "They don't even see the person to whom they have attached their sentiment. They don't even know that person is there. They're 'in love!'" "A thing which is loved has to be trapped and caged, and a thing which is admired is a thing which you would like to see free." -- L. Ron Hubbard from a taped lecture of Oct. 3, 1953 (*betokens: a sign or indicator of something.) If you are obsessed with your mate, move up to feelings of admiration before it's too late. If you wish to add new life to your relationship, look for new ways to admire your mate. Make it okay in your mind for him or her to be free and happy without you. Increase your respect for this person. See for yourself that deep admiration and sincere respect results in two very happy people. Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

TipsForSuccess: No Excuses

No-Excuses Living Roman general Julius Caesar liked to land his ships on enemy territory, unload his troops and then burn the ships. He eliminated all means of retreat. His army had no choice but to win, which they did. You have the power to choose excuses or solutions. If you prefer excuses, you have low production and stress. If you persist until you achieve your goals, you win the supreme test. "THE SUPREME TEST OF A PERSON IS HIS ABILITY TO MAKE THINGS GO RIGHT." "This, of course, is a rather savage and brutal datum for it thrusts aside all justification, reasonableness, excuses and even does not take into account the size or obstacles of the opposition." "People who explain how wrong it is all going and who have reasons why and WHO AREN'T PUTTING IT RIGHT are the real crazy people in the universe. The only ones crazier than they are, are the ones who are quite happy to have everything fail and go wrong with no protest from them. And the only ones even worse are those who work endlessly to make things go wrong and prevent anything from going right and oppose all efforts instinctively. "Fortunately, there are a few around who DO make things go right in spite of everything and anyone." -- L. Ron Hubbard Examples of Excuses Living Examples of No-Excuses Living "My car was stolen and I have a cold. I'm taking the day off." "July and August are always bad months because of summer vacations." "I can't do any other projects right now because I'm switching to a new computer." "Profits are down because the new guy is too slow." "We can't fill more orders until we get a bigger space." "I can't . . . . " "I'm doing my best . . . " "I tried . . . " "Even though my car was stolen and I have a cold, I made it to work and will do a good job today." "If we do the marketing plan, July and August should show a 5% increase." "Give me those projects. I'll get them done." "I'll use my Saturdays to train the new guy." "I will find a bigger space by Friday. Meanwhile, let's work faster and add five hours to the schedule." "I will do whatever is necessary. . . " "Nothing will stop me." "I make it go right." No-excuses living means you make it go right, no matter what goal you set. If you want a highly successful career, you make it go right. If you want a successful business or group or department, you make it go right. You never give up, agree with excuses or whine. "Make it go right" applies to any area of your life. If you want a wonderful marriage, you get one despite any failure or obstacle. If you want to be a successful parent, you do the same thing. To succeed in anything, you get educated. You communicate. You get assistance. You face and handle obstacles. You persist until you succeed. What is the biggest problem you have ever confronted in life? If you had to solve that problem or go to jail, what would you do? You would find a way. You would focus your attention into present time. You would make orderly progress. You would not avoid the issue, but you would dive in. You would not accept excuses. You would increase your knowledge, responsibility and control. You would ignore the losses and make the wins firm. You would pass the supreme test and make it go right! Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

TipsForSuccess: Say it Like You Mean it

Say it Like You Mean it "If you intend something to happen, it happens, if you intend it to happen. Verbalization* is not the intention. The intention is the carrier wave which takes the verbalization along with it." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*Verbalization: Expressing oneself in words.) When you use the correct level of intention in your communication, people pay attention to you. People can feel your intention and you can feel theirs. For example, have you ever noticed how you can tell someone is looking at you behind your back? Do you ever think of a person just before they call? You are feeling their intention. People respond differently to you, based on your intention. For example, you are in a busy clothing store and need a clerk's help. With poor intention, you might wait all day. But with strong intention, you look at the clerk, his head whips around and he asks if he can help you. Driving a car with strong intention practically guarantees no one will hit you. All the other drivers know you are there and give you plenty of room on the road. If you let your thoughts drift, the other drivers forget you are there. Intention is behind all of your major accomplishments. Intention is your drive, your motivation, your purpose, your passion. When you add firm intention to your communication, you get better results. For example, if you tell your children to clean up their rooms with weak intention, they continue to play around. If you tell them to clean their rooms with strong intention, they can tell that you mean it and their rooms get cleaned up. Intention at Work Your job is easier when you use the correct amount of intention. For example, a coworker named Chris likes to complain to you. Chris says, "I hate this crappy chair." "This weather is horrible." "Oh no, here comes Mr. Big again." Tolerating or avoiding Chris resolves nothing. Your workplace remains stressful. But if you look Chris in the eye and say, "Chris, stop complaining," you enjoy some wonderful results-if your intention is strong enough. A salesperson, with a strong intention to sell, gets more sales. A service representative, with a strong intention to make customers happy, helps the company thrive. A job applicant, with a strong intention to land the job, gets the job. A manager with poor intention gets little cooperation and eventually fails. The people under a weak manager often fail to do their jobs, unless they feel like it. But a manager with strong intention, finds that his or her employees usually do what they were hired to do. Exercise Suggestions 1. Write down 3-5 things that are difficult for you to get people to do. Examples: Telling someone "No." Asking for money. Correcting someone's behavior. For example, a coworker always forgets to bring back your stapler. 2. With a coach or friend, or by yourself to an object, say the first thing on your list with little or no intention. Really be wimpy. Repeat a few times. For example, you say, "Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it," but you are thinking, "sir, if you get a chance and don't mind could you please try to remember to return my stapler if you have nothing else to do please?" 3. Now practice saying the first thing with too much intention. Be much stronger than necessary. Repeat a few times. For example, you still say, "Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it," but your intention is "JOE, BRING BACK MY STAPLER OR ELSE!!" 4. Next, say the first thing from the list with the right amount of intention. The correct amount of intention gets the job done. Repeat a few times. For example, you still say, "Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it," and your intention is very clear: "Joe, return my stapler when you are done with it." 5. Repeat with each item on your list until you are ready to give each item a try. Use the correct level of intention today with each of the items on your list. Notice the results! Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.

TipsForSuccess: The More Valuable Your Product . . .

 

The More Valuable Your Product, The Greater Your Pay The owner of a moving company was hauling a couch up the steps of a big, beautiful house when he suddenly had a question: "Why can't I live in a house like this one?" He asked the homeowner, "I work 12 hours a day for my own company and I can't even keep up with my bills. What's the secret? What am I doing wrong?" The homeowner said, "The fact is, you need to do something more valuable than moving people's stuff. Anybody can move furniture and you have to compete against inexpensive movers." The mover said, "You're right. I hate it. I've even had to lower my prices." The home owner said, "You need to find the most valuable thing you can produce and produce it like crazy." The Key to Personal Wealth How do you feel about your standard (level or quality) of living? Are you living the good life? If you sleep in a car, your standard of living is low. If you live in a mansion on your own tropical island, your standard of living is high. "It is a basic natural economic law that personal production of VFPs and one's standard of living are intimately related." - - L. Ron Hubbard So your production of VFPs determines your standard of living. So what is a VFP? Valuable: Having considerable importance; of great use or benefit; worth a high price; precious. Final: The end of something; the last stage of a process; complete. Product: Something created or produced; making raw materials into something more valuable or useful. Your Valuable Final Product is worth money. You sell or provide your VFP to someone who wants it, and then you get paid. To increase your wealth and improve your standard of living, you simply increase or improve your VFPs. Final Product Some people mistakenly believe their product is pay or profit. Yet unless you're a government currency printer or a counterfeiter, money is not your product. Money is the exchange you receive for your product. What do you currently produce? What is the end result of your hard work? Examples: * The product of a car salesperson is a sold car to a happy customer. * The product of a dentist is a healthy set of teeth. * The product of a bricklayer is a completed brick project. So what is the result of your work? Valuable Once you know your product, you can then increase your income in three ways: 1. Increase the volume of your product. Produce more products. For example, instead of laying 200 bricks per day you figure out how to lay 300 bricks per day. If you own or manage a business, you find ways to increase productivity. For example, if you make $1.00 profit for each book you publish, and you now publish 50,000 books, you find a way to publish 100,000 books. 2. Make your current product more valuable. You can then demand more money per product. For example, you stop selling old used cars and get a job selling new luxury cars. As another example, you upgrade your restaurant and sell gourmet meals. 3. Produce a different product that is more valuable. For example, a heart surgeon takes home $350,000 per year to repair or replace hearts. A car mechanic, who repairs or replaces complicated engines, only makes $40,000 per year. What is different? The value. A new heart, which adds 20 more years to the customer's life, is more valuable than a new engine. Of course, if you're a car mechanic it's not easy to switch professions to become a heart surgeon. It's possible, but not easy. But most people are not using all of their resources: knowledge, connections, skills, experience and intelligence. Most people can increase their income, if they wish. Examples: An accountant starts managing millionaires' investment portfolios. A school teacher writes a best-selling novel. A car mechanic invents a more efficient engine. If you wish to find a different, more valuable product to produce, the following exercise might give you some ideas. Exercise Answer these questions in writing so you can review your answers. Your goal is to work out the most valuable products you can produce. 1. What are all your skills? For example, organizing, listening, teaching, problem-solving, decision-making, speaking. 2. What do you know that most people do not know? Your special knowledge can be the source of a more valuable product. 3. Who do you know? Write down their names. Who are the top ten money-makers on your list? Can you learn to produce what they produce? Can you help them so they can then help you? 4. What benefit can you provide to the world that most people cannot? 5. What have you produced in the past that made you the most income? 6. What do you do better than most people? 7. What are the biggest problems people face? Which of these problems can you help them solve? 8. Make a list of every product you are capable of producing. Which is the most valuable? Which of your products do most people really want? 9. What can you do that most people find too difficult to do? Is it valuable? 10. What can you do to bring greater value, advantage, benefit or results to someone else's life? What do people say, when you ask them what they really need or want? As soon as your personal production of valuable final products is high in quantity and quality, you'll be living the good life!   Copyright © 2006 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.TipsForSuccessCoaching.org. For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm or click here. To subscribe, buy books, contact us or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org, click here.