People Who Want You to Fail (Part Two)
A Los Angeles Police Department study determined only 2% of the population was dangerous and harmful to society. Years earlier, L. Ron Hubbard had determined it was 2.5%, but he also observed another 17.5% of the population acts like antisocial personalities, because they are under the control of antisocials.
In other words, 20% of the people you know cause you most the most trouble. One out of five people are not helping you succeed. In fact, they hope you will fail.
Once you discover which people in your life are antisocial, they then have less influence over you. You know whose advice to ignore. You know where your stress is coming from.
You also know who your friends are. You know who you can trust. Luckily, most people are on your side and hope you will succeed!
Part One covered the first characteristic of the antisocial personality: they speak in generalities. For example, "Everyone thinks you are too inexperienced," "No one likes what you said" or "America is terrified." Go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/antisocial1.htm to read "Who is Stopping You? (Part One).
The second and third characteristics are covered below.
Antisocial Characteristic #2
"2. Such a person deals mainly in bad news, critical or hostile remarks . . ."
" . . . there is no good news or complimentary remark passed on by such a person." -- L. Ron Hubbard
The social person is the opposite.
"The social personality is eager to relay good news and reluctant to relay bad.
"He may not even bother to pass along criticism when it doesn't matter."
"He is more interested in making another feel liked or wanted than disliked by others and tends to err toward reassurance rather than toward criticism." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Antisocial: "Did you hear about the guy who blew his brains out last week?"
Social: "Did you hear about the guy who won the lottery last week?"
Antisocial: "You like that chicken? My mother's chicken tastes much better."
Social: "Great chicken. Thanks!"
Antisocial: "Everyone in the office thinks you work too hard which is why you look so tired."
Social: "Paul wishes he could work as hard as you. I think you set an excellent example for all of us."
Antisocial Characteristic #3
"3. The antisocial personality alters, to worsen, communication when he or she relays a message or news. Good news is stopped and only bad news, often embellished*, is passed along.
"Such a person also pretends to pass on ‘bad news' which is in actual fact invented." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*embellish: add fictitious details)
Simply passing on bad news is not enough for antisocials. They prefer to make it seem even worse.
Neighborhood gossiper: "Marge's husband left her and now she seems to have a different man's car in front of her house every night!"
Politician: "Unlike my political opponent, I will never support child pornography!"
News reporter: "New questions are surfacing about the death of John Smith. Was it really natural causes? Some say it might be murder!"
The social person has a different approach.
"A social personality passes communication without much alteration and if deleting anything, tends to delete injurious matters.
"He does not like to hurt people's feelings." -- L. Ron Hubbard
Examples of social personality statements:
"Marge is finally getting out and meeting some men. I couldn't be happier for her."
"If I am elected, I will work hard to give our children a better education."
"In his will, John Smith left $1 million for cancer research. Everyone he knew liked him."
1. Listen to television or radio news or talk shows and decide who is antisocial. Do they talk about good news or bad news? Do they focus on the positive side or negative side of things? Do they make you feel stress or satisfaction?
Stop giving these antisocial personalities your time.
2. Notice those around you who pass on bad news and criticisms. Observe who makes bad news seem worse.
Tell them you do not want to hear their negative comments. If they do not stop, reduce your contact with them.
3. Notice who likes to pass on good news and compliments. They probably avoid negative topics and like to talk about positive subjects.
Give your time and trust to these people. Let them know you appreciate them and want to support them.
4. Work on becoming more social yourself. Do not pass on rumors or criticisms. Never make bad news seem worse than it really is. Whenever possible, pass on good news and compliments.
If you live your life as a social person as much as possible, you and the people around you have a much better chance of succeeding.
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