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TipsForSuccess: People Who Want You to Fail (Part Five)

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People Who Want You to Fail (Part Five)

Some of the greatest barriers to your success are antisocial people. When you are not under their influence, you perform at your best. When you are not opposed, it's much easier to reach your goals.

As outlined in "Who Is Stopping You?" parts 1-4, a person with an antisocial personality speaks in generalities ("Everyone thinks you have problems"), likes to talk about bad news ("Did you hear about the murders?") and worsens the news ("Experts say we should expect even more terrorist attacks very soon!").

When around antisocial people, you feel frightened, upset, intimidated, sick or depressed. Once you identify these people, and remove their influence over your life, you feel new energy, optimism and joy.

Wrong Targets

"6. The antisocial personality habitually selects the wrong target." "If a tire is flat from driving over nails, he or she curses a companion or a noncausative source of the trouble. If the radio next door is too loud, he or she kicks the cat." "If A is the obvious cause, the antisocial personality inevitably blames B, or C or D." -- L. Ron Hubbard

War, murder and terrorism are, of course, wrong targets. Killing people resolves nothing. Yet an antisocial person actually claims more death is good or moral.

For example, Charles Manson persuaded his followers to commit several murders. He testified he was trying to improve the "establishment." Obviously, he selected the wrong targets to improve anything.

When psychiatrists select wrong targets, they look silly. "His chemical imbalance is the reason he keeps hitting his wife." "She can't learn to hold a job because she had a bad childhood." "Sex is the root of all mental problems."

Prejudice and biased views are also good examples of wrong targets. "I'm poor because of white Americans." "The gay neighbors are a threat to my marriage." "I can't get a job because of immigrants."

You see examples of wrong targets every day: The driver behind you blames you for making him late for work. The patient blames his doctor for his cancer. A man can't pay his bills and so blames his boss.

If you select incorrect targets, you do not succeed. "If I make my competitors look bad, I'll get rich." "All managers are liars." "The only way to get ahead is to cheat."

Antisocials pick the wrong targets, wrong problems and wrong solutions. Conditions around them get worse and worse.

Correct Targets

As a social personality, you select correct targets. If the tire is flat, you fix the hole in the tire. You don't kick your dog or yell at your friend. You fix the tire.

When social personalities are running countries, you have improved conditions because the leaders find and handle the correct targets. For example, Egypt and Israel were bitter war enemies until the U.S. President convinced the Prime Minister of Israel and the President of Egypt to communicate. These three leaders were social personalities who ignored the antisocial people around them. They successfully negotiated their differences during a 13-day meeting in 1978. To this day, Egypt and Israel remain at peace.

Social personalities succeed in business because they find the correct targets to their business problems. "We don't have any new customers because we stopped advertising." "We earned more money this month because our service was outstanding." "The more we train our employees, the faster we expand."

Social people help you because they find correct targets. "You are broke because you don't control your spending." "Your ex-girlfriend left you because you never found out what she really wanted." "Your kids will help you clean the house if you thank them each time they help."

When you select correct targets, you also open the door to your personal success. "Being kind to people makes them want to help me." "I'm fat because I eat lots of junk food and never exercise." "If I constantly learn new skills and work hard, I'll make more money."

When you hit the correct target, fix the correct problem or use the correct solution, conditions improve.

Exercise

Train yourself to find the correct targets so you have more success in life.

1. Think of a condition around you that is getting worse. Three examples:
A. Your job is not as fun as it used to be.
B. Your bills are growing and you have no cash to spend.
C. Your marriage is getting worse and you do not love your spouse.

2. Check if you just might be working on the wrong target, wrong problem or wrong solution.
A. Many of the employees think the boss is being a jerk.
B. You think the economy is so bad, making more money is highly unlikely.
C. After flirting with your ex, you decide to not tell your spouse.

3. See who is behind the wrong target or wrong idea you have. This is the anti-social at work.
A. Every day, your co-worker Joe blames the boss for something.
B. You realize you think the economy is so bad from watching the news.
C. You remember hearing a psychologist recommend people keep secrets from their spouses, ". . . so no one gets hurt."

4. Find the correct target, correct problem and correct solution.
A. You realize Joe is the only one who has a problem with the boss.
B. You find success stories of people who made it on their own and realize you can do the same.
C. You decide you like an honest marriage and tell your spouse about the flirting.

5. Continue using the correct target until the condition improves.
A. You ask your boss what you can do to get ahead and he gives you excellent advice each week.
B. You take control of your spending, increase your income and pay off your bills.
C. You and your spouse stop arguing and your marriage becomes better than before.

Read about all 12 characteristics of a social personality at www.scientologyhandbook.org/sh11_2.htm


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