TipsForSuccess: Make More Money by Confronting Money

Make More Money by Confronting Money Steve has the golden touch. Everything he does makes money. As an employee at a furniture store, he gets fast promotions and raises. After five years, he is the top manager and makes a deal with the owner to buy the business. He makes several improvements and triples the income. He has no debt, saves money every month and has a lot of fun. Andy never has any money. He works hard at the same furniture company, but never gets ahead. He can't remember his last raise and is terrified of starting a business. He spends more than he makes, so his debts are steadily increasing. Because he constantly worries about money, he has health problems, as well. What is the greatest difference between Steve and Andy? "Man is having trouble with finance? Obviously, he is unwilling to confront* money." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*Confront has two common definitions: 1) meet face-to-face in hostility or defiance. 2) face up to and deal with a problem; to be courageous. In this article, we are using the second definition.) To resolve money troubles, you confront or face all aspects of money. To really confront something, you have no resistance, no hesitation and no emotion. You courageously, but simply face it. For example, you can probably confront an apple. The apple does not scare you or upset you. You can easily control and enjoy the apple. However, a credit card bill, a financial disagreement or a problem with taxes may not be as easy for you to face. These areas of low confront actually hurt your ability to earn money. When you face something completely, the area starts to improve. It's amazing how much money you can make when you improve your ability to confront money problems. Using our example above, Steve is a financial success because he faces all financial problems. For example, he fearlessly sells big packages of office furniture to the toughest customers. Andy gets so nervous when talking to big-shot customers that he prefers to stay in the store instead of going to customer's offices. If he were willing to confront tough customers, and went to see them despite his fear, he would conquer his fear and earn more money.    Two Steps for Increasing Your Financial Confront If you are not making as much money as you like, what about money are you not confronting? Non-confront comes in many forms: fear, avoidance, shyness, laziness, procrastination, terror, pretense, anxiety, stress, worry, upsets, forgetfulness, disorganization, hatred, lies, shame, blame, regret, critical thoughts and excuses. Do you experience any of these forms of non-confront regarding money? If you are willing to increase your ability to confront money, you will have more of it. All you need to do is: 1. Identify an aspect of money you are not confronting. 2. Confront it: face it, deal with it, be courageous, take responsibility for it; invest the hard work and persistence required to resolve it.    20 Questions To help you get started, these questions can help you identify the areas of money you should confront. 1. How much money do you owe? 2. How much loan interest do you pay per month? 3. How much money do you spend per month? On what? 4. How much money do you waste per month? 5. Is your checkbook balanced? 6. Do you avoid preparing tax forms? 7. Are you not paying money you promised to pay? 8. Are you avoiding anyone who owes you money? 9. Are you involved in a financial disagreement? 10. What are you doing with money that you should not be doing? That you should be doing? 11. Do you have a long-term financial plan? 12. What work skills should you improve? 13. How could you produce a better service or product? 14. What about your income are you avoiding? 15. What do you lie about regarding money? 16. What bad habits do you have with money? 17. What scares you about money? 18. What are you putting off? 19. What do you hate about money? 20. What steps would be needed for you to increase your income? Which of these steps seem too difficult for you to face? Pick one thing you are willing to confront, confront it today and see what happens! Learn more about increasing your ability to face difficult people and difficult problems by reading Scientology: A New Slant on Life, available at the TipsForSuccess Bookstore or through Bridge Publications.     Provided by TipsForSuccess.org as a public service to introduce the technology of L. Ron Hubbard to you.     Copyright © 2011 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Subscribe, buy books or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org at www.tipsforsuccess.org

 

 

TipsForSuccess: You Tried to Reach a Goal and Failed . . . Now What?

You Tried to Reach a Goal and Failed . . . Now What? (Note: We need your opinions! Please click this link www.tipsforsuccess.org/survey.htm and complete our seven-question survey. Near the bottom of the survey, you will see a link to download the free 54-page e-booklet, "How to Set Exciting Goals You Can Reach.") Have You Ever Said:   "I have too many problems to reach my goals." "I can't succeed because I'm the wrong age/wrong race/wrong gender/wrong nationality." "I'd rather watch TV." "Whatever made me think I could do that?" "I'm sick of the whole thing." "I simply can't do it." "I'll do it some other time." "I don't have enough energy to do it." "I didn't realize it would be this difficult." "Like most people, I'll never reach my dreams." "I've lost hope." Once you start saying, "can't," you are on the downhill road to failure. "I can't do the project." "I can't pay my bills." "I can't succeed." Barriers to success are built into our society. For example, most government regulations outline the things you cannot do. "You can't park there." "You can't keep that money." "Unless you follow these regulations, you can't . . . ." Read any law and notice how often the words "Prohibit," "Forbidden" and "Disallowed" occur while words like "Encouraged," "Allowed" and "Recommended" are absent. Some employers like to act like governments and stop things. "You can't leave early." "You can't have more authority." "You can't do things your own way." Businesses do it to customers. "We can't see you without an appointment." "I can't give you a discount." "Sorry, we cannot help you." The real damage occurs when you stop yourself. "I can't handle more work." "I can't earn more money." "I can't change." Why Do You Feel Stopped?   When all you see in life are problems, you feel stopped. When you decide the forces in the universe are against you, you feel stopped. Whenever you feel like giving up, you feel stopped. Why? "STOPS ALL OCCUR BECAUSE OF FAILED PURPOSES. BEHIND EVERY STOP THERE IS A FAILED PURPOSE." -- L. Ron Hubbard The sequence goes like this: 1. You have a purpose to _________. For example, do you remember some of your old purposes? Make $20 million. Raise a happy family. Tour Europe. Get involved in the community. Make a major contribution to society. Help people. Buy a mansion. 2. For one reason or other, you decide you have failed to achieve that purpose. When you made some effort to achieve your purpose, you felt stopped. Maybe achieving the purpose turned out to be more difficult than you expected. Maybe you saw someone else fail. Perhaps you became afraid or lazy. Maybe someone got in your road. 3. You then invent or agree with stops or barriers to your purpose. "It's too much work for me." "I need a better education first." "They don't want me to do this." "No one succeeds without lucky breaks." "I don't know what to do." "It's better to settle for less." Some people go even lower and begin to fight solutions: "Don't try to help me as it is impossible." "I tried all the solutions and none of them work." "No one has the answers." "You should give up, too." You stop looking for ways to succeed. You avoid setting any goals at all. You feel very tired. Fortunately, you can turn things around and reach your biggest goals. The Law Regarding Failed Purposes   "THERE IS A LAW ABOUT THIS -- ALL YOU HAVE TO DO TO RESTORE LIFE AND ACTION IS TO REKINDLE* THE FAILED PURPOSE. THE STOPS WILL AT ONCE BLOW." -- L. Ron Hubbard (rekindle: revive or renew) A simple solution to a very big, difficult problem. Just fire up your original purpose and the stops or barriers magically disappear! Can it be that easy? Example: Jill, an amateur athlete, wants to enter and finish a 40k (26-mile) marathon even though she lost a leg in an auto accident when she was a teenager. She starts to run every day with her prosthetic (fake) leg, but trips and falls every mile or so. People keep telling her, "You're so brave!" "I really admire you for trying." "I would have given up long ago." Finally, after missing a few runs, she decides it is getting to be too difficult. She tries to run one morning anyway. Her real leg has a cramp. Jill normally pushes through the pain, but today it bothers her. Suddenly, she falls on the sidewalk and scrapes her elbows and hands. A delivery truck drives by, hits a puddle and soaks her clothes while she is down. She quits for the day. Each morning a new reason for not running comes up. She has a dental appointment. The weather is bad. The cat runs away. Stops, stops, stops. She tells her family and friends, "I just didn't realize how tough it would be." "It's too cold and wet out there." "I probably should have given up long ago." The thought of running makes her tired. Jill then learns the law about failed purposes. She thinks about ways she can fire up her original purpose. "All I have ever wanted to do was finish that stupid 40k run! Why did I want to do that? Oh yeah, it wasn't to prove anything. It wasn't to make people admire me. I wanted to run that race long before I lost the leg. I remember when I first saw people finishing the race on TV when I was 14 years old. I thought I should do that. It would be a really great thing to do. I would just prove to myself that I could run 25 miles. THAT was my purpose! I still want that!" Within seconds, Jill feels great! She sees no reason she can't finish the 40k marathon. She changes her clothes and gets back into training. But this time, she is more determined than ever. "Nothing is going to stop me this time!" The stops have blown off. She trains, enters and finishes the race. Recommendations   1. What have you given up on? What goals did you once have, but now think are impossible? What purposes have failed? 2. FIRE THEM UP! What were your original reasons? Rekindle, renew and revive those original reasons. 3. Make the purposes stronger. Put more energy into them. Convince yourself that you can accomplish those purposes despite all the barriers. Notice what happens to all the "reasons" preventing that purpose. 4. Plan how you will reach these goals. Write down the steps. Focus on how you can succeed. 5. Make one small step toward the goal. Make another. Get some momentum going. 6. Each time you feel like quitting, change your mind and remember your reasons, your goals or your purposes. 7. You never fail until you decide to stop trying, so persist until you win! --------------- P.S. Don't forget our survey: www.tipsforsuccess.org/survey.htm. Thanks!    Provided by TipsForSuccess.org as a public service to introduce the technology of L. Ron Hubbard to you.     Copyright © 2011 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Subscribe, buy books or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org at www.tipsforsuccess.org   For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm    Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.tipsforsuccesscoaching.org

 

 

TipsForSuccess: "Did You Hear What I Said?"

"Did You Hear What I Said?" Does it bother you when people do not respond to your communication? When they just look at you, or act as if you said nothing? On the other hand, do you want people to confide in you? To value their time with you? To regard you as a good conversationist? If so, you will like this simple, yet powerful, communication technique. After someone tells you something, what should you do next? "Acknowledgment: Something said or done to inform another that his statement or action has been noted, understood and received. 'Very good,' 'Okay,' and other such phrases are intended to inform another who has spoken or acted that his statement or action has been accepted." "Acknowledgment itself does not necessarily imply an approval or disapproval or any other thing beyond the knowledge that an action or statement has been observed and is received." -- L. Ron Hubbard For example, if I ask you for the time and you reply, "It's nine o'clock," how would you know I received your answer if I didn't give you an acknowledgment? You might feel a little confused and wonder why I didn't say anything. For example, I ask, "What time is it?" You reply, "It's nine o'clock." I then ignore you. How would you know I received your answer if I didn't give you an acknowledgment? You might feel a little confused and wonder why I didn't say anything. If I then say, "thanks," you know I heard you and you can move on.   How to Give a Good Acknowledgment 1. Pay attention, listen and wait until the person is finished. 2. Indicate you received and understood the message. "Okay," "Thanks," "Good," "All right," "I got that," "Makes sense," "Sure thing," "Fine" and so on.   Eight Acknowledgment Facts 1. Some people do not like to talk. Why? Perhaps at some point, they tried to express themselves and were repeatedly ignored. They have given up the idea that anyone listens to them. 2. Other people talk too much. Why? They believe no one hears them. They are still trying to get through. They think that if they talk long enough, someone will listen. If someone would acknowledge them, they could relax. 3. When employers give their staff members a good acknowledgment for completing their work, the staff members feel proud and satisfied. "Boss, I finished that project ahead of schedule and under budget!" "Good!" If the boss does not acknowledge the project completion, the employee will either repeat the statement or give up and lose interest in taking on future projects. 4. Employees who are not acknowledged will demand more pay because pay is a form of acknowledgment. 5. Your bosses (and parents) need to be acknowledged as well. "Could you clean up this area before you leave?" Silence. "I said, clean up this area before you leave." Blank face. "DIDN'T YOU HEAR ME? I SAID CLEAN UP THE AREA BEFORE YOU LEAVE! GOT IT?" If you always acknowledge your boss, he or she feels satisfied and can then move on to other duties. 6. Acknowledgments help keep your relationships going. If you forget to thank people for their gifts, you eventually get no gifts. If you never return telephone calls, your phone goes silent. Acknowledging e-mail communication is also important. Because of spam filters, there is always a question if emails might be blocked. You improve your relationships when you acknowledge your e-mail: "Thanks for the note." 7. Children who are not acknowledged get upset and demand more attention. "Mommy? Watch this! Mommy? Watch me! Mommy? Look at me! Mommy? Mommy?" Parents who acknowledge their children have calmer, more confident children. 8. If you feel the urge to repeat yourself, speak louder or get angry, check if someone has failed to acknowledge you. Just realizing that the other person has been thoughtless can make you feel better so you can move on.   How to Test this Success Tip If you are not sure an acknowledgment is important, listen to someone talk to you and then say nothing. Remain silent. Don't even nod your head. Notice how they react. Then give the person some relief and say, "Oh, sorry. Yes, I heard you." If you do not acknowledge people, you will not be successful. If you do acknowledge people, they will appreciate and support you. Give it a try!     Provided by TipsForSuccess.org as a public service to introduce the technology of L. Ron Hubbard to you.     Copyright © 2011 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Subscribe, buy books or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org at www.tipsforsuccess.org   For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm    Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.tipsforsuccesscoaching.org

 

 

TipsForSuccess: Stupid Thinking

Stupid Thinking Do you think things through? Before you act, do you consider what will happen as a result? For example, before you lose your temper and yell at your friend, you think it over. "If I yell, he'll get upset and leave. I'll be alone all week, so I'd better control my temper." You see the step-by-step sequence of getting angry and change your mind. If you can think in sequence, you are probably not a criminal. You can see the consequences of a crime. A criminal cannot think that far ahead. "This is a consequence. 'If you saw off the limb you are sitting on you will of course fall.' "Police try to bring this home often to people who have no concept of sequence; so the threat of punishment works well on well-behaved citizens and not at all on criminals since they often are criminals because they can't think in sequence." -- L. Ron Hubbard For example, a murderer may only think about revenge. He does not see beyond the death of the person he hates. He does not think about living in prison for the rest of his life. Only criminals are stupid enough to think a crime has no consequences. They just grab what they want without thinking it through. Smart people, on the other hand, get what they want without committing a crime. For example, if you want $500, you can just work at a job. Even at $7.00 per hour, it only takes two weeks to earn $500. You can spend it however you like, no stress, no secrets, no risks. A criminal robs a store for $500 without thinking it through. If he is gets the money and is not caught right away, he must keep his crime a secret. He might need to go into hiding. His life is no longer open, happy and trusting. For just $500, he ruins his life and reduces his chances for success. A criminal also fails to see how he or she hurts others. A stolen car, even when insured, can take months of hassle and stress to finally replace. Stolen money might represent someone's life savings and ruin their retirement plans. Hitting someone on the head can cause a lifetime of pain for the victim. Street-drug users can only think about their next high. If they looked further into the future, they would see damage to their bodies, financial ruin and a failed life. Prison time is also a real possibility; in fact, half of the inmates in US prisons are there for violating drug laws. These inmates did not look into the future. Fortunately, when a criminal gets smart and thinks in sequence, he or she stops committing crimes. Even Small Crimes Have Big Consequences People who commit small crimes do not think in sequence either. "If I take a few office supplies, no one will know." This person does not see the nagging feeling of guilt or the possibility of getting caught, getting fired and being labeled a criminal. This person does not realize that the risks far outweigh the tiny benefit. Breaking your agreements at work is another way you lose by not thinking ahead. For example, to get a sales commission, you violate a company policy and promise things the company cannot deliver. The company then has upset customers and lawsuits. As soon as the lawyers sort things out, your reputation is ruined and you are fired. Breaking agreements with your spouse, friends and family members can also have horrible consequences. For example, you agree to pick up a child at school. You decide you have just enough time to go have a beer after work and decide no one will mind if you're a bit late. You then forget about the child entirely.   Recommendations 1. When making a big decision, think in sequence. If you do Plan A, what are the consequences? If you do Plan B, what are those consequences? 2. Teach children how to think in sequence. "If you hit your brother, what might happen? Let's ask him." "If you don't do your homework, what will happen?" "If you steal candy from the store, what might happen? What would it be like to get caught? Let's ask the store manager what would happen." 3. Talk to criminals and potential criminals about sequences. Help them see the bigger picture. Get them to practice thinking in sequence. As crime hurts everyone directly or indirectly, we all increase our chances of success by helping criminals get smarter. Benefits Thinking about the consequences of your actions helps you live with less stress. You have nothing you regret, nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to hide. You earn a reputation as an honest, reliable person. People can trust you and believe you. You can make and keep big promises which boost your income. When you think in sequence, you can take actions which benefit you and others the most. You make smart decisions for which you can be proud. You and those around you live happier, more successful lives.    Provided by TipsForSuccess.org as a public service to introduce the technology of L. Ron Hubbard to you.     Copyright © 2011 TipsForSuccess.org. All rights reserved. Grateful acknowledgment is made to L. Ron Hubbard Library for permission to reproduce selections from the copyrighted works of L. Ron Hubbard. Subscribe, buy books or learn more about TipsForSuccess.org at www.tipsforsuccess.org   For permission to copy, print or post this article, go to www.tipsforsuccess.org/reprint_info.htm    Take better control of your life with the TipsForSuccess coaching website at www.tipsforsuccesscoaching.org