TipsForSuccess: TipsForSuccess: Who is Stopping You? (Part 5)

Who Is Stopping You? (Part Five)

Some of the greatest barriers to your success are antisocial people. When you are not under their influence, you perform at your best. When you are not opposed, it's much easier to reach your goals.

As outlined in "Who Is Stopping You?" parts 1-4, a person with an antisocial personality speaks in generalities ("Everyone thinks you have problems"), likes to talk about bad news ("Did you hear about the murders?") and worsens the news ("Experts say we should expect even more mass murders very soon!").

When you are around antisocial people, you feel frightened, upset, intimidated, sick or depressed. Once you identify these people, and remove their influence over your life, you feel energetic, optimistic, happy and strong.

This last part of this series outlines another way to identify an antisocial personality.

Wrong Targets

"6. The antisocial personality habitually selects the wrong target." "If a tire is flat from driving over nails, he or she curses a companion or a noncausative source of the trouble. If the radio next door is too loud, he or she kicks the cat." "If A is the obvious cause, the antisocial personality inevitably blames B, or C or D." -- L. Ron Hubbard

Terrorism, war and murder are, of course, wrong targets. Killing people solves nothing. Yet an antisocial person actually claims more death is good or moral.

For example, Charles Manson persuaded his followers to commit several murders. He testified he was trying to improve the "establishment." Obviously, he selected the wrong solution.

When psychiatrists select wrong targets, they look silly. "His chemical imbalance is the reason he keeps hitting his wife." "She can't learn to hold a job because she had a bad childhood." "Sex is the root of all mental problems."

You see examples of wrong targets every day: The driver behind you blames you for making him late for work. The patient blames his doctor for his cancer. A man can't pay his bills and so blames his boss.

Prejudice and biased views are also good examples of wrong targets. "I'm poor because of rich Americans." "Homosexuals are a threat to my marriage." "She can't work because she's old."

Correct Targets

As a social personality, you select correct targets. If the tire is flat, you fix the hole in the tire. You don't kick your dog or yell at your friend. You fix the tire.

When social personalities are running countries, you have improved conditions because the leaders find and handle the correct targets. For example, Egypt and Israel were bitter war enemies until the U.S. President convinced the Prime Minister of Israel and the President of Egypt to communicate. These three leaders were social personalities who ignored the antisocial people around them. They successfully negotiated their differences during a 13-day meeting in 1978. To this day, Egypt and Israel remain at peace.

Social personalities succeed in business because they find the correct targets to their business problems. "We don't have any new customers because we stopped advertising." "We earned more money this month because our service was outstanding." "The more we train our employees, the faster we expand."

Social people help you because they find correct targets. "You are broke because you don't control your spending." "Your ex-girlfriend left you because you never found out what she really wanted." "Your kids will help you clean the house if you praise them each time they help."

When you select the correct targets, you also open the door to your personal success. "Being kind to people makes them want to help me." "I'm fat because I eat lots of junk food and never exercise." "If I constantly learn new skills and work hard, I'll make more money."

Antisocials pick the wrong targets, wrong problems and wrong solutions. Conditions around them get worse and worse.

When you hit the correct target, fix the correct problem or use the correct solution, conditions improve.

Recommendation

1. Take a condition around you that is getting worse.
Example 1: Your job is not as fun as it used to be.
Example 2: You bills are growing and you have no cash to spend.

2. Look for a wrong target.
Example 1: Many of the employees think the boss is being a jerk.
Example 2: You think the system is set up to make the rich richer and poor poorer.

3. See who is behind the wrong target.
Example 1: Every day, Joe finds a new reason to blame the boss for something.
Example 2: You got the idea the "little guy can't get ahead" from watching the news.

4. Do what you can to find the correct target.
Example 1: Every day, you mention to someone how Joe is the only one who has a problem with the boss.
Example 2: You find success stories of people who made it on their own and realize you can do the same.

5. Continue the above steps until the condition improves.
Example 1: You get the boss to come to lunch with the group and have fun.
Example 2: You take control of your spending, increase your income and pay off your bills.

You can read the 12 characteristics of a social personality at www.scientologyhandbook.org/sh11_2.htm.

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